Edit: I swallowed my pride and posted. Thanks for all the encouragement!

I am emigrating from the U.S. to the UK, where I have citizenship, because my daughter is queer and I don’t think she is safe under Trump. She won’t be totally safe in the UK either, I understand that, but it’s as safe as I can get her right now.

I want to get her out before inauguration day. My wife can leave later because she will need to both get our affairs back in the U.S. in order, but also find a job that will get her a work visa (this won't be that hard, she has a ton of managerial experience and two masters degrees).

My issue is that I really want to have a job lined up before I get there. We'll have some padding for a month or so, especially after I sell my car, and friends and relatives offering to help, but I would feel far more comfortable if I had a job lined up before I left.

So this brings me to Reddit and this subreddit in particular: https://www.reddit.com/r/UKJobs/

I haven't posted on Reddit since I quit not long after the blackout. I hate it so much that this is my current profile:

So do I swallow my pride and go back? I'm going to hate myself but I am so worried and I need to keep her safe. I'm kind of at a crossroads here.

Maybe the 'go back and do it' is the obvious answer, but I need either reassurance or warnings from my fellow Lemmings before I do it because I'm really frozen at this point. I feel so silly asking this of all of you, but I don't know who else to talk to about this because really, only people here in any large group will understand what I'm dealing with emotionally and psychologically.

Also, if you know anyone in the UK who needs a video editor, audio editor, sound designer, videographer, photographer and someone who has a lot of other entertainment experience with a prestigious list of clients, please don't hesitate to let me know your email address in a PM and I'll send you my CV.

Thanks.

I wanted to show all these indie sites so that you guys could explore. These have really good ideas and aren't hindered by concision.

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Told a new doctor about me coughing in bed most nights. They had me tested for asthma and it turns out I have had a minor form most of my life. It hit me like a truck when the inhaler they gave me during the test wore off, but It’s greatly improved my life just knowing and they haven’t even given me any form of inhaler yet. I sleep so much better with the minor things I can do at home for it. I’ll give a few links below for DIY situations like I’m currently in. Life gets better in small percentages it turns out.

Webmd suggestions

Vapor rub = Can make things worse for some asthma cases, be very cautious, but for me some around my nose has improved my sleep by a lot.

This is a really good read. If you have any crits let me know.

"Heeeeey, so listen. Last night, when we had sex, and I started screaming bloody murder, began clutching the sheets, crying, and trying to violently kick you away? That's because you put it in the wrong hole!"

"Oh. I thought my penis was just big enough that you started flailing around and kicking. You were screaming take it out, it hurts, take it out, it's too big. So naturally I assumed that I am the ultimate man."

"No, in fact you made my anus bleed. You literally ripped the skin on my inside."

"Aw geez, oh man! That's awful......but you know what that means, right?"

"That tampons will now go in 2 holes?"

"No. It means tonight when we try that, I'll use lube, but I also won't have to wear a condom."

"We're not trying that ever again........except on your birthday."

Also, from the lyrics: "Team by team, reporters baffled trump"

We visited my 83-year-old mom yesterday and let her know that we were going to use my dual citizenship to get to the UK to protect my queer daughter if Trump wins. She didn't like the idea but didn't say much. Then a short time ago I got this email.

Dear [MY NAME]

I know you are very worried about [DAUGHTER]'s safety if Trump wins. Here is what I want to say:

You have lived in a very privileged, unusual time with more stability than usual. People in the US and elsewhere have been able to say publicly who and what they are.

That was not true for much of history and for at least half of my life.

What did people do before?

They hid who they were, with few exceptions.

We are in a time of transition, and there may be no safe place in the world.

Certainly not England or Europe (both are becoming more fascist).

The best way to protect [DAUGHTER] is to teach her she may have to choose how public or private she is in the near future.

Up until now, you have helped her be public about who she is.

That privilege may be over.

And it may have given her a false impression.

If Trump wins, all of us are going to have to decide between resistance and safety.

To be safe, just obey the (new) rules.

Being hysterical just draws attention--the worst thing in a dictatorship.

Hiding can be literal (like building a false wall in your house) or political (like staying quiet and unobtrusive.)

Let's wait and see what happens in this election before deciding how to protect [DAUGHTER]..

Love,
Mom

Not only is my mother apparently blissfully unaware that queer people who were closeted got thrown in jail for it all the time anyway. She also seems to be unaware that my daughter has no problem telling people she's queer. She has no problem with me doing it and sharing things like pictures of her girlfriend with friends and family online.

Which means that Trump's administration could very easily figure out who she is.

But yeah, my mother thinks the solution to protecting my daughter from Trump is for her to go into the closet and hope no one finds out.

For fuck's sake. I know she's an old lady, but it's 2024.

What would she say if my daughter's mother was Latina? Wear pancake makeup and color contacts? Change her name to something not-Spanish?

I'm not even going to bother replying.

cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/46477287

See, Lemmy is a relatively small platform. There are pretty few active users here. Moderators should occasionally bend the rules if people are having fun and post or comment is in good faith. We shouldn't moderate like robots; if I wanted that, I'd use Reddit or another meta platform. If we start banning every user and blocking each other, this place will become quiet and lonely. We should act like a community, not a big shitty corpo social media platform.

I made this post after some incidents like @FlyingSquid@lemmy.world banning @tal@lemmy.today on !outofcontextcomics@lemmy.world for posting intentionally funny comics. I know I know rule say comic should be unintentionally funny. Also, Ban of @MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz on !touhou@lemmy.world by @vbb@lemmy.world for posting a NSFW (Not really) post without NSFW tag unintentionally.

Also, my comment on news of archive.org getting hacked and DDOS. (I said "People who are doing this fucking die") on !technology@lemmy.world. I know, my comment is not in good faith but I have no sympathy for people who want to destroy information and knowledge.

10/10 vibes youtu.be/e6Funs6yyEw [8:38]

I don’t know how to pipe the link, as an advance heads up of my ignorance.

My daughter is in online school. It's a state public school, not a private school or homeschooling. She's in it due to being severely bullied. I have to stay home with her, but I don't actually teach her anything, I'm a designated 'learning coach.'

She has assignments based on the same shitty Pierson textbooks the regular school kids use and has online classes with accredited teachers. Those teachers are generally get paid better than other public school teachers since the whole thing is a deal with Pierson, so they're usually a better level of teacher, which is part of what pisses me off so much.

My daughter worked really hard on her science presentation, a slideshow she was assigned to do. The overall topic was humanity's impact on the environment and one of the options she could pick was disease. My daughter is a weird kid- in a good way- who is into history when it's weird too, so she picked the Black Death.

Like I said, she worked really hard. I was really proud of her too because it was the first time she worked on a project this big without asking for or needing any help from me. So, she saved the project as a PDF and submitted the assignment.

The next day (Thursday), she gets back a grade of a zero. This is the teacher's note:

I noticed that you submitted a placeholder for the portfolio assignment. Is this an error? The portfolio is worth a lot..so please contact me as soon as possible. Please note that intentional placeholders are subject to not being accepted. If I don’t hear back from you soon, I will assume that it is a placeholder. Please do not upload placeholders to move ahead in the class as this may result in failing grades, calls home and referral to administration.

My daughter isn't a cheater and, like I said, she worked really hard. This stressed her out a lot because one of the reasons we took her out of her middle school was that the teachers rarely had her back when it came to bullying and sometimes also treated her like shit. Because that's what school is like for neurodivergent kids, even in 2024.

So... were totally confused. On top of everything else, the PDF was right there to download when you review the teacher's message. I sent her an email asking her what the hell is going on and also have my daughter send her a Google Slides link instead just in case there is some corruption issue on her end or something even though I can download and view the PDF just fine.

We don't hear back all Thursday and nothing until mid-day Friday, when she sent us both what is clearly a form email, ignoring both of the messages we sent:

Hello Parents and Students!
I wanted to take a moment to let you know that your student received a 0 on their science portfolio, but the great news is that there's still a chance to improve that grade!
Please log into your student’s gradebook and click on the science portfolio grade to read the feedback provided. This feedback outlines how your student can correct any issues and resubmit the portfolio within the timeframe specified for a better grade.
Let’s work together to help your student succeed! Thank you!

She also responds to my daughter's google slides link and says it's a very interesting slideshow and asks where she got it from (you will see below why that is just a bullshit lie to get her to reveal that she cheated).

So I have my daughter also send her the PDF the "fill this out to help you with your research" document my daughter diligently filled out before doing her slideshow and I got mad and sent a message to her homeroom teacher, who you're supposed to go to for any major problems.

My daughter is now super stressed, and Friday is a pretty easy day for her, so I take her out to do things to give her a nice day- get her a smoothie, let her walk around Five Below, etc.

When we get back, maybe at 1 pm, I check my email. I get this from the teacher:

I have to apologize!! When I first saw her portfolio and saw all the old pictures and the Black Death title, I assumed ( I know, I shouldn’t have) it was a placeholder.

She left a similar voicemail to my wife and apparently one to my daughter, but I didn't read it. I just said thanks and told my daughter to say thanks as well.

But I'm just floored. She didn’t bother just reading the text. This is the slide right after the title slide. If she had taken a few seconds, she would have realized this is a middle schooler doing a science project:

(I'm not suggesting my kid is stupid, I'm saying that's pretty typical for her age.)

Be a little less lazy than your eighth graders, lady. And maybe don't automatically assume they're cheating.

At least she ended up giving my daughter 100%.

This was part of a series of informational maps from a job search site (Zippia) for people looking to move for work.

And it won't even be over on Tuesday no matter who wins.

I just have to start distracting myself when it happens.