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[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

The comments here seem a bit weird, I'm not sure why we're calling her a narcissist and immediately disbelieving the situation. I've met the partners of some of my friends over the years and been genuinely a bit surprised by how dismissive and rude some men can be.

Yes, it's sad that she's resorted to the yes-man-as-a-service subscription, but she even recognises that in the very first (non meta) sentence.

I'm sure we've all been in relationships wherein our partner doesn't make us feel heard or cared about, at least some of the time.

Wanting to feel understood and appreciated doesn't make us narcissistic. It makes us human beings wanting to belong.

It also tragically makes us vulnerable to these bastard chatbots who want to suckle at our wallets and our data.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org -2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If that's what she wanted, she should have picked a guy who delivers it.

If she can't find a guy like that, she better off staying single.

Good dudes are in short supply, that's the market. You want good shit, get out there and compete for it.

It works both ways obviously. If someone can't find a good mate, that's inherently a personal problem. They have to fix themselves first until they are able to get what they want.

Nobody is entitled to a partner, it is a privilege to have a good one.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

She says "I don't feel like there's any connection between us anymore", which makes me think there was at some point. Presumably that'll be why they got married. I didn't say anybody was entitled to a partner, nor do I believe that.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org -1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Right before that she said she "settled"

That's already a bad way to start a marriage. Also, that's toxic behavior and unfair to the the partner.

I know you didn't say it but OP's chat gpt thing clearly seems like she feels entitled to it without doing much of any actual work.

Hence why this thread has comments that she is the problem

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And judging from what is written in the post, and that she's implied the connection between them has gone, do you think her partner may have "settled" after getting married, too?

It's a widely told joke that spouses "settle" and "stop trying" after tying the knot. It just feels odd to me personally to jump to blaming her for picking a bad guy, and assuming she's not doing any work (she also describes the kind of work she is putting into the relationship in the post).

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Knowing how men are... I don't dispute the behaviour she alleges.

However, I also dont buy she didn't know this before going into marriage. Hence my original thesis that she should have been choosing better.

It just feels odd to me personally to jump to blaming her for picking a bad guy, an

I find it odd that a person can say she settled for a guy and two years later she lost connection and somehow this is the guys problem.

With respect of her showing love... Good for trying but it only matters if that's what he wanted.

Reading between the lines it sounds like they are doing things they think other person wants BC that'd what they want. That's a maturity issue and or age gap.

8 years is a lot of time esp in your 20s but women marry older then pika face when dude doesn't treat you as an equal partner.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I don't feel like we're getting anywhere here really but I can agree the age gap in your 20s is big! I'm always concerned I'm being prudish but decade plus age gaps when one partner is early twenties always rub me the wrong way lol. Have a good start to the weekend! ✌️

[–] superfes@lemmy.world 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Why not adopt a dog, they're real, they always happy to see you, agree with everything you say (especially when there is food), and almost never argue.

[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Can't fuck dogs tho unless you want to be bestialist (don't plz)

[–] SleepyPie@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Can we not go here ffs

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 0 points 1 day ago

Sir this is a Florida thread now

[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I've gotten at least one report on a comment over this one, and for now I'm leaving it alone. It's apparently just tumblr lite up in here. I'll part with this:

Fellas, this is rage bait. Somebody posted this to rile you up. It's probably not real, and even if were it was lifted from reddit gods alone how long ago. The original OP, whoever they are, they're not going to see your replies directed at them from here of all places. Even if it ain't fake, it's still bait.

(Also, INB4 anyone managed to mention the Dresden Dolls song. So there!)

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Do you know who the man into the background is?

[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ted Kaczynski, AKA the Unabomber.

His bent was having a strong anti-technological stance, essentially arguing that mankind's increasing reliance on technology was going to be its undoing, yadda yadda. One of his predictions was that the emergence of a computerized artificial intelligence would result in the eventual enslavement of humanity by the same. Unknown if he'd just watched any of the Terminator movies beforehand.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Would you rather us get rage baited or really tell the class how Lemmy feels about uncle Ted?

You don't have to answer 🤣

[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ooh. Does that mean we get to once again bring out the conspiracy theory that he was fucked in the head due to being messed with via the MKUltra program, by the very same government who eventually locked him up?

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There is no way to tell why he did what he did but he was subject to these experiments, ain't that part factual?

[–] dual_sport_dork@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't think he's ever been conclusively documented as a subject, only alleged.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 1 points 1 day ago

Ted Kaczynski, an American domestic terrorist known as the Unabomber, was said to be a subject of a voluntary psychological study alleged by some sources to have been a part of MKUltra.[125][126][127] As a sophomore at Harvard, Kaczynski participated in a study described by author Alston Chase as a "purposely brutalizing psychological experiment", led by Harvard psychologist Henry Murray.[128] In total, Kaczynski spent 200 hours as part of the study

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_Murray

Among the subjects was 17-year-old Ted Kaczynski, a mathematician who went on to become the domestic terrorist known as the 'Unabomber', who targeted academics and technologists for 17 years.[9] Alston Chase's book Harvard and the Unabomber: The Education of an American Terrorist connects Kaczynski's abusive experiences under Murray to his later criminal career.[8] Kaczynski himself disputed connections made between Murray's experiments and the Unabomber bombings, stating that throughout the study, he only had one unpleasant experience for just 30 minutes.[10]

In 1960, Timothy Leary started research in psychedelic drugs at Harvard, which Murray is said to have supervised.[11]

Some sources have suggested that Murray's experiments were part of, or indemnified by, the United States government's research into mind control, known as the MKUltra project.[

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

As much of a basic and needy bitch that I am, for the life of me can't imagine falling for chatbot. Like, there's nothing there? It just sycophantically goes with whatever you say.

Characters from an average cheesy romance novel are more lovable. At least they have personalities, human quirks, dreams and desires that don't disappear whenever you start a new conversation.

admittedly I'm not in a decade-old loveless marriage with a person who has no respect for me, that probably changes things.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 9 points 1 day ago

SMBC talks about this all the time.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Seems reasonable and pretty well-adjusted and by today's standards very self-aware. She's just in a tough situation and doing what works.

Y'all just scared and interpreting this in the most bad faith way possible. Stop reacting. Don't be a reactionary.

[–] Oberyn@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

NoAI seriously got peops frenzied enough to openly mock peops going thru rough times if what they're doing abt it hurt their sensibilities

This mass social shaming around genAI use needs to s t o p 🛑

[–] resipsaloquitur@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago

There's never enough love, admiration, and flattery for these narcissists.

The problem isn't everyone else, it's you. Learn to love yourself.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org -3 points 1 day ago

I love how OP externalized the blame on her husband...

Girl, you picked him. These things should be hashed out before marriage. People don't change. Nobody is perfect. But if this is a deal breaker now, what was you thinking before you married him?!?

Bad mate selection is a YOU issue. If you keep dating men like this, the common denominator is YOU. People need to start owning their bad decisions.

Nice touch with uncle Ted, deff meme worthy

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