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I am 25(M) and never even touched hand of opposite sex, at this point i am kinda sure that im going to be alone in my life, but i just cant get over it. I am ugly and skinny, and as for recent started going bald. Have some heart issues so no heavy physical work. I have no chance. So i wanted to move on from this state of mind, and just focus on work and hobbies. How can i do so? Do you have any advice you can share?

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[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That is simply not true. CBT is absolutely proven to be helpful, I'm not sure where you got the idea it is harmful. It is not effective for treating everything, like trauma for example, but it is widely used and is absolutely not harmful. CBT and DBT have different emphasis on what they are trying to treat. Check out this article (or plenty others) explaining their differences

[–] Goodtoknow@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The whole basis of it is faulty as it proposes that if ones faulty reasoning was resolved, the “unhelpful” negative emotions and behaviour will change. https://theconversation.com/cbt-is-wrong-in-how-it-understands-mental-illness-175943

[–] Bazoogle@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

I tried googling it myself to see what you were seeing, but that was one of the few articles I saw. I do not recognize the site nor does the author seem to have any other published works. Here is a meta-analysis for CBT efficacy: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3584580/

The meta-analytic literature on the efficacy of CBT for depression and dysthymia was mixed with some studies suggesting strong evidence and others reporting weak support.

The efficacy of CBT for anxiety disorders was consistently strong, despite some notable heterogeneity in the specific anxiety pathology, comparison conditions, follow-up data, and severity level.