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is this manager scared of me? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by ricesoup@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I know the best way would be to ask her but that would be even more awkward than asking here. For context I'm a man (she obviously a woman).

before leaving the room after having a conversation I give her a handshake, a normal businesslike shake like I do with every other employee, but each time I do that, she looks to the ground, smiles and shakes my hand using no force at all. It's like she lets me take her hand.

To me this means she is scared of me, she smiles and lets me "take" her hand because she doesn't want to look rude. I'm thinking about not shaking hands anymore.

has this ever happened to you?

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[–] Surenho@beehaw.org 2 points 2 weeks ago

You might think it is normal for you as you have the habit, but I know plenty of people that do not give handshakes or any form of physical contact. So it is a possibility that she might find it awkward and unnecessary, and so it catches her off guard. As others pointed out, thinking about why that happens is pointless and though you might wonder this to be thoughtful, it's better to just wait for her to raise the hand instead of you. If she does not, then there's no need.