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This is one I often get pushback on, but I believe whole-heartedly and as I get older I believe it even more.
Nobody has intrinsic value. You, as a human being, have the value you bring to others.
Note that I said value, not monetary worth! If you make people laugh and feel good, you've brought something of value to them and thus have value. If you put cheerful little post-it notes with funny cartoons that lighten up people's days, you've brought something of value to them and thus have value. If you help people in need, you've brought something of value to them and thus have value. If you say interesting things, make things people like, do things people like, or, yes, if you want to be crass, bring them money (in the form of your employment, say) then you have value.
And the key is: they decide what they value, not you.
I totally get that pov. There's more value in kindness to other people than anything else
I like this philosophy, but in reverse. It's good to be mindful of peoples' wants and needs, and being kind in a way that appeals to their love languages, as opposed to my own, is a wonderful thing to do.
It is a bit stressful for me to think about how if I don't do these things, that I'm intrinisically worthless. I care about myself and bring myself intrinsic value. I like to do things for the people I care about, and I also don't owe people things, if that makes sense. But I do see what you mean, especially after you unpacked it in the third paragraph!
This is the implication of my wording, yes. Live for others and others will live for you and value you.