WomensStuff

I totally get that pov. There's more value in kindness to other people than anything else

I like this philosophy, but in reverse. It's good to be mindful of peoples' wants and needs, and being kind in a way that appeals to their love languages, as opposed to my own, is a wonderful thing to do.

It is a bit stressful for me to think about how if I don't do these things, that I'm intrinisically worthless. I care about myself and bring myself intrinsic value. I like to do things for the people I care about, and I also don't owe people things, if that makes sense. But I do see what you mean, especially after you unpacked it in the third paragraph!

The worst part is we are the least equipped to live healthily when it's most important :P It's so easy to do something dumb, warned or not, when a teen. Like using headphones too much at too high a volume etc

Hey, uh, "Deaf ears" is ableist. Perhaps consider "uncaring ears" instead.

Walk me through this. They never seem to support me properly and the elastic band where the underwire normally would be curls up on itself. How do you find one that actually does what it's supposed to do? I've got a big chest but not ginormous. If I could successfully go wireless I'd be thrilled!

I've loved this discovery. I no longer people please in any way shape or form, nor do I care. I've just lost whatever stupid hold living up to other people's expectations, had over me, after so many early years of it being drilled into me. Nope. Fk that.

If you're living your life to try and appease a notion, someone else has given you that you're "supposed to be" you aren't really living your life, you're living someone else's life. By someone else's expectations, which are probably built on absolute bullshit. A lot of what we're brain washed to believe, as younger people, as "the way" we should live, is all perfectly aligned to feed capitalism.

We get old and we get wise to the bullshit and then they try to diminish and dismiss elder women's voices because we can see through all the bullshit telling you how to be a "good woman" and meet everyone's expectations. And it's all complete bullshit designed to keep you from noticing how you really feel and following your true needs and wants. Because we don't really need any of the bullshit they try and tell us we do. And the things we do really need, they don't make capitalism as much money in devotion, servitude and obedience.

I absolutely love these new generations coming up, I see you all, and I absolutely worship your ways. I see you shirking the things they told us we had to abide by, and breaking all the rules and I love it. I see you building boundaries and senses of self and emotional intelligence that equals someone who has lives 4 times the years you have.

Knowing yourself, honouring yourself and making sure what you want isn't some implied imperfection or new trinket you don't really need, whispered into your ear and subliminally planted by a million adds, that tell you if you had "this" THEN you could be happy. But true happiness is in the exact opposite direction. True happiness is within you. It's in nothing you own. It's in a state of being and the way you stand in this world. It's in your sense of self and self worth, that doesn't relate to how much earning worth you have or what you bring to the table. You are a beautiful and mystical and deep universe, in and of yourself, without any gold adornments. We are already enough. We don't need to perform, we are entirely enough just as we are.

Hey, coming into a woman's space with misogyny isn't a good look, no matter what they have done.