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What's it called when a man acts creepy towards you, and when you bite back they try and make you out to be a bully? anyone here had an experience like this before? (self.womensstuff)
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[–] LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 days ago

I'm a dv outreach worker and this is my area. DARVO is a really common tactic, and it can be really effective for them. Abusers LOVE to be seen as the victim, and in their head, they are. They have totally unrealistic expectations for their partners and the world, and think they're hard done by when these impossible expectations aren't met. They also don't believe a woman has any right to say no to them. A big flag for an abuser can be that they need an extraordinary need for pity.