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Most of the men on Lemmy who saw this in All passed on by, respecting this as the one women-only instance.
But not you!
I guess you're more like them than you want to admit.
Absolutely. I regularly get supportive comments from men saying how great the comm is and they wish us the best. So many men comment without realising and voluntarily self delete as soon as they find out. They must be mortified seeing all the awful comments
I don't think that's the reason. This is a woman's only community per the rules. We would really appreciate you making your thoughts known elsewhere in future. Thanks! ❤️
also we're trans inclusive so having a penis isn't actually disqualifying.
In this community we assume good faith until proven otherwise. We give a kind message informing men of the rules because we understand it can be easily missed. That's why men don't get instantly banned and deleted. Most men are kind, reasonable, and understanding. I'm sorry to hear you are none of those things.
Don't get it twisted, we're excluding you because you are one of the bad ones. The good ones apologize and follow the rules.
This. This right here. This self-centred twat has broken the rules twice, now, and at the very least the second time was doing so knowingly.
He thinks he's one of the "good ones".
In reality he's one of the ones we have to watch out for.
As for "safe spaces", holy fucking shit, this guy is not only not one of the good guys, he's clearly well into the MRA arena. I'd guess from the attitude either MGTOW or possibly straight-up incel. Doesn't matter where in MRA he is, though, he's toxic AAF.
Anyone claiming to have been turned into a misogynist in response to minor push back was a misogynist all along. Its a mask.
I had him figured from his first message alone. Proud of myself for that!
Saw this and thought of you
It's not loading for me, so I'm going to assume it's a woman swearing like a sailor about the sheer irrationality of the "logical sex"?
Haha it's a woman reading out women's reasons for choosing the bear.
I want to pet the bear because it is fluffy. I will forever be disappointed that bears do not like being pet.
if I get my request for a peertube account granted, I can upload the clip to that channel and share it
OK, I managed to upload the video here: https://exquisite.tube/w/5FYhpk1NQJpMDrfAzPz98m
EDIT: I get a 401 when I go there and see a message about being auto-blacklisted and requiring a moderator's approval ... oops
It's OK. I can be patient. I have my own reasons to prefer the bear anyway.
looks like the moderator approved it and I have access to it now!! Are you able to access and watch it?
https://exquisite.tube/w/5FYhpk1NQJpMDrfAzPz98m
Got it!
Some of those are heart-wrenching because you know there's a true story behind it. 😢
No you're a dick because you walked into the women's place, the one part of Lemmy we're supposed to be able to call our own, and started bitching about women being afraid of men based on their lived experience.
What's the saying?
"The strongest argument for sexual orientation being not a choice is that straight women still exist, given how dangerous it is to them."
I'd say" good for you for not being like that," except this post doesn't demonstrate you being all that much better.
EDIT: Just read your edit! Thank you for demonstrating so exactly who you are! I'll recognize the name now wherever I see it on Lemmy. I kinda wish there was a tag for "sexist asshole on WS" and that I knew how to use tags.
But mods, thank you for creating and enforcing this space, which also serves this purpose.
i use the Voyager app and it let’s you tag people… just go to their profile and click “tag user”
I wish the web UIs had tagging!
right on… after a bit of looking i found this plugin, that i do not endorse at all:
https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/lemmy-tagger/
in the release notes it says there’s a link to source code somewhere but i didn’t see it… also zero reviews….
i wish there was a “Reddit Enhancement Suite” equivalent for lemmy… (unless you’re using the web ui on mobile)
You're welcome mate. I'd be nothing without you lovely members though! WomensStuff works cos we all make it work
This is sort of the part that a) makes you a dick, and b) illustrates exactly why women can't just universally trust men. I'm sure you think yourself to be one of the "good guys" yet here you are, deciding that your poor hurt little fee-fees mean you can ignore a two-word rule and speak to women who have very clearly told you that your speech is not welcome. YOUR fee-fees are more important than women's, after all, since you ~~have~~are a dick.
Maybe if men lost that attitude "I'M A MAN AND THEREFORE MY VOICE IS IMPORTANT EVERYWHERE" women would lose, over time, the wary eyeing of exits just in case the "good guy" in front of her turns out to actually be, well, you.