as adults we defer decision making to the politicians

Huh? No we don't. We defer carrying the message from our home base the agreed upon central meeting place to save us the trip. It's a long way from Vancouver to Ottawa. Best to send only one person – or, at most, a handful of people – instead of millions of people all making the trek.

You, the leader, are still responsible for crafting that message. That is why you're down at the constituency office on the regular telling your employee what message needs to be sent. I mean, I assume you are. It is your democratic obligation. It is true that some people don't believe in democracy and will steer clear.

You're paying good money for that office to allow you a place to spend time talking to the employee you hired. Your workers are most definitely not mind readers. Best to put that office to good use!

and parties we agree on.

Are you referring to the labour unions our hired representatives are known to join? We have no say in that. In fact, our employee selection system, known as FPTP, is explicit that we have no say in what union a worker may choose to be a member of. We only choose the person – one individual. What labour groups that individual chooses to associate with is beyond our concern.

There are countries using other electoral systems that give the leaders of a country some say in what unions are able to represent the hired workers, which is perhaps the source of your confusion? But that is not the system we use in Canada.