Guy is gonna look back on this moment for the rest of his life and kick himself
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Abusers often are "paying forward" abuse they suffered.
Nice demonizing of survivors based on some shit you read once and gave no further thought to
This is statistics my guy. It doesn't mean they are read people. It means they need help.
I'm waiting for your statistics fam, as well as your explanation of why you think you should imply survivors are dangerous from them.
Okay bud, link those statistics.
"Hurt people hurt people" is a common saying for a reason; dealing with trauma is difficult and not dealing with it often leads to problems.
That's not to say that victims always become victimizers, it's to say that the cycle of violence often begins with violence.
According to domestic violence expert Lundy Bancroft, it’s about 50/50. So as far as we know, there is no correlation.
50/50 is a HUGE correlation.
Incidence of DV is way less than 50/50 in the general population.
Besides, it's not just DV or SA, it's also smaller things. You can hurt people without rising to the level of assault.
Oh wow, common sayings, the bastion of fact.
Hey, we've got an edgelord over here. Hey everyone, look at the edgelord! He's edging!
They’re not being an edgelord, they’re just being sarcastic. And they’re right to question it because the only source I know of on the question states that there is no statistical correlation (Lundy Bancroft).
You mean the other reply you gave me where you either misquoted it or you misunderstood the study? And you artificially limited the scope to a single kind of hurt which wouldn't even capture the kind of hurt we're discussing here?
Actually I tried to find the study that you're talking about and I can't find it. Did he actually do a study on this? Afaict he is just a self-help author. I cant even find any formal education related to the subject.
Meanwhile if you do a quick search for if unresolved trauma leads to violence, you see a ton of research supporting that.
I didn't suggest that people who are abused tend to go down this path, I'm saying of those that abuse others, they themselves were likely abused.
I don't know the percentage, but hypothetically if 2% of people abused go on to abuse others, this would be true without even saying anything about 98% of abused people.