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[–] hissingmeerkat@sh.itjust.works 40 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I hate this stereotype; it blames bigotry against homosexuals on homosexuals.

[–] just2look@lemmy.zip 49 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

So its not entirely just a stereotype. They have done studies on it, and it holds remarkably true. I'll see if I can find one of them for you.

Edited to add a link to the study: Homophobia study

[–] CXORA@aussie.zone 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

You know that's literally not what the study says right... ?

[–] just2look@lemmy.zip 1 points 2 hours ago

It says there is a correlation between homophobia and sexual arousal from homosexual visual stimulus. I'm not sure what you mean?

[–] Bonson@sh.itjust.works 1 points 18 hours ago

Thank you for citing sources, remarkable that there is statistically an interaction. I wonder what other common phenomena people may be in denial about?

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Nah, openly gay homosexuals aren't bigoted, it's only the ones in denial.

[–] Allonzee@lemmy.world 24 points 1 day ago

Exactly.

It's not accusing the being gay of fucking them up, it's accusing the unhealthy repression.

[–] Skua@kbin.earth 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Gay people in denial are still gay though. If they weren't, they wouldn't be in denial

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

oh so much better, it's just closeted people that are acceptable targets!

[–] sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not closeted people, just those in denial. If you're in the closet, that means you're scared of coming out, whereas someone who's in denial has some unhealthy reason to want to not be gay that leads them to hate that part of themselves.

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (3 children)

ahh, so much better

How about we just attack homophobic people for being homophobic, instead of using gay as an insult in a roundabout way of calling them a hypocrite?

[–] Mrs_deWinter@feddit.org 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

As a queer person I never understood this

They are not being attacked for being gay. They are specifically attacked for being homophobic.

TERFS are also not being attacked for being women, nor is attacking TERFS an attack against all women either.

Attacking someone who's bi or homosexual in denial and overcompensating that with hatred says absolutely nothing about gay people as a whole, or implies in any way that being gay is problematic.

And to be completely honest here, it feels kinda presumptuous the way this is being argued. Almost like it shouldn't be allowed to criticise someone gay for any reason at all. Queer people are a very diverse group of people and obviously we have assholes, too. It's not doing anyone a favor if we act like that's impossible.

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

They are specifically attacked for being homophobic.

No, they are attacked for (assumingly) being gay

[–] Mrs_deWinter@feddit.org 1 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Maybe you and I are having different conversations then. I've never experienced it being taken this way.

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

I’ve never experienced it being taken this way

But you have, that's what the entire discussion is about.

[–] Mrs_deWinter@feddit.org 1 points 9 hours ago

No, it's about the misunderstanding that it might be meant this way. I don't think most commenters here are actually homophobic.

But look, obviously I can't know for sure how other people mean it when they say it, but I can when I'm the one talking.

I'm bisexual. Bisexuality is a normal and beautiful part of the spectrum of human sexuality, and anyone who has something against it is a certified moron.

I personally think that many homophobic people are bisexual (or gay) and in horrible, hateful denial.

I don't think their queerness is to blame, but specifically their harmful behavior. I don't think their queerness is the reason either, but nothing but good old sexism and heteronormativity. I still think that their queerness is part of an explanation, since it leads them to this horrible internal misunderstanding that sexuality is a choice. I don't think all homophobes are queer, obviously some are straight, but I think it's a significant portion of the most spiteful and publicly active ones. And again, them being (allegedly) queer is not what's problematic about them in the slightest. It's their homophobic behaviour.

I've yet to see an example of someone who actually blames homosexuality or the queer community for homophobia in this argument, just people claiming that this is what's somehow happening.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I just wish there was a clean way to diss them for weaponising their self-hatred. If you think of a really pithy insult for people who externalise their negative feelings, please share with the rest of us, it's badly needed.

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (2 children)

weaponising their self-hatred

But it's also just regular hatred, same reason you can't call racist people the N word.

Even if there was a slur for hypocrites, that's still just an ad hominem instead of attacking them for their behavior (the actual problem)

[–] stray@pawb.social 1 points 1 day ago

But if there were a slur for hypocrites that word would by definition be attacking them for their behavior since hypocrisy is a behavioral choice and not an element of personal identity.

I've actually heard "coon" from a black leftist to refer to black conservatives who try to protect themselves by being "one of the good ones" in the eyes of right-wing racists. The term isn't something I'm comfortable using myself as a white person, but I don't think it's problematic or racist because it's directed at their harmful behavior and not their skin color.

[–] yakko@feddit.uk 1 points 1 day ago

I don't know what comment you meant to reply to, but I was pretty specifically talking about attacking people for what they do.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago

There's a lot of overlap

[–] stray@pawb.social 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's not blaming homosexuals in general; it's blaming specifically those homosexuals who help uphold systems of oppression. It's the same as women who uphold sexism or pickme minorities. They're using the oppression of others as a shield against their own oppression instead of joining the fight for equality.

[–] hissingmeerkat@sh.itjust.works 2 points 21 hours ago

It's blaming only homosexuals.

[–] CXORA@aussie.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I hope no one is saying most misogynists are secretly women.

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago

Steven Crowder might be, though.