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Gen Z boys and men more likely than baby boomers to believe feminism harmful, says poll
(www.theguardian.com)
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I think a big part of the problem is that, among younger Americans especially, both men and women that refer to themselves as feminists conflate it with benevolent sexism, and not the same sets of social rules for both genders.
Benevolent sexism is a tough concept to swallow for men. It means respecting and practicing the old mores men practiced with women, with none of the toxic expectations. Things like expectations of men being the breadwinners, running to get the door, etc aren't compatible with a desire for equality, especially when correctly rejecting the trade-offs those perks used to be tied to.
The first waves of feminism cleared the way, but in having done so, the newest generation of women are asking "but why don't I get these cool perks I heard about" and men are answering "because we no longer get the social power that facilitated that cool stuff."
Everything is trade offs.
Some years ago I was waiting for a bus, there were four of us and as the bus arrived we lined up behind the man who had got to the bus stop first. He looked behind him as the bus arrived, let out a large sigh, rolled his eyes and moved to the side, motioning for us women to board first. Not wanting to slow the bus down, i boarded silently whilst he muttered 'move it' at us. Was that you?
The male propensity to play the victim is quite imaginitive.
In my experience, the human propensity to play the victim is quite imaginative.
Men were never required to "hold doors open" or "be the breadwinner". They only did those things during a certain time in a certain place and for a particular reason: to make women like them. You don't have to do that now and it has nothing to do with "feminism".
Women worked for money and opened doors for thousands of years. This may be surprising to some people, but in many places women used to manage all the money because they were going to town and selling products every market day.
If you're a male farmer, you are basically interchangeable with any other farmer. Women had to be good at math and negotiating. "Women be shopping" as they say.
What a shit take on the past.