I don't really want to make transgender people explain themselves. Because I don't think it would be productive randomly sharing my opinion with them unsolicited and making it personal. I don't see how it would help either or be productive. Every trans person I've know or have known has had other things going on underlying, quite often they were the victims of sexual abuse as well. It's kind of hard seeing someone do something unhealthy yet you know if you point it out to them they'd be deeply hurt, because of society telling them they should be.