Thankfully i haven't had any bad experiences like with that chair. Even as kids, we were always very specific with the gifts we wanted. Parents likewise. Mom will straight up just send me 10 items she wants for mother's day or her birthday. That suits me just fine.

Buying things that fit someone else's interest is tricky at best. I have very specific hobbies and interests. Usually, if it's 'cheap enough for you give as a gift', it's certainly cheap enough that I'd have bought it for myself if I wanted or needed it. It's also difficult for people outside of that interest to judge what is a good value or what an item might cost. I.e. to me, a 50 dollar dildo sounds expensive. It's a piece of rubber after all, how much can it cost? Most casual people wouldn't know that a thing like a 250 dollar dildo even exists. So while they think they're doing you a favor by buying something they consider 'expensive', it might not be what you want or need.

Gift cards are just silly. It locks you into a specific store and some cards even expire or are otherwise really inconvenient to use. COMPANIES really love them though - because people just don't always use them or let them expire. That's free money for a store, and a wasted gift...

Ironically, personally I do like to give physical gifts. But I only do it when the person has no gift expectation and only with items that I'm personally familiar with. For example, interns at our company always get a really nice pen when they depart. I like to tailor the specific pen to the intern, based on their writing habits, favorite color, etc. Usually I give people Lamy Safari fountain pens or rollerballs, in their favorite color. It's a way for me to introduce them to a hobby that I like, while also being a meaningful gift. After all, everyone can use a good pen, right? You might not buy one for yourself, but you'll certainly enjoy using it.