Why I called it a fetish, it really is just people getting weird about playing house until they get tired of it and have to figure out what actually being a homemaking unit with their partner looks like. It's the sex equivalent of all those Mormon dudes who confessed they wouldn't have had so many kids if they knew that one day they were gonna be stuck with them all under one roof during the COVID lockdowns.

Even women actively saying they're looking for that relationship will probably admit once prodded that they're only willing to abide that dynamic with a partner who genuinely pulls the other half of the ship and who genuinely respects and shows proper appreciation of the wife's full time homemaking, y'know, someone who makes them feel like a partner instead of a sex doll with a cooking mode.

The people who adhere the most to trad-wife lifestyles are probably also the people who'd be the least interested in men who are being sold on the trad-wife fad as the ideal woman.