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[-] breadsmasher@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago

Self chosen label

Have you chosen to be cis? Have you chosen to be trans?

Because there isnt any other option. If he isn’t cis, then he is trans.

cisgender /sĭs-jĕn′dər/

adjective

1. Identifying as having a gender that corresponds to the sex one has been assigned at birth; not transgender.


transgender /trăns-jĕn′dər, trănz-/

adjective

1. Identifying as or having undergone medical treatment to become a member of the opposite sex.
[-] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 27 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

(Technically, there's a secret third option: agender. Agender folks are not cis, but not necessarily trans, either. Source: am agender)

[-] breadsmasher@lemmy.world -4 points 4 months ago

I am absolutely not challenging your definition or view of agender!

Is this because cisgender is identifying with your birth sex (being different to gender?) and transgender identifying with the opposite sex of birth. But agender dont identify with either?

I think sex and gender are considered different? I might have written this very poorly with use of wrong terminology

[-] Moneo@lemmy.world 8 points 4 months ago

Y'all are not doing the snowflake memes any favour when you downvote someone for politely asking a question.

[-] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 4 months ago

Agreed. Breadsmasher was polite--they acknowledged it could be a minefield of a question, explained what their fuzzy understanding was, and asked for clarification on what they got wrong, from someone who'd already shown a willingness to discuss the topic. I didn't take it as confrontational, rude, sea-lioning, or anything stressful.

[-] grysbok@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

No worries :) It's roughly that agender people don't identify as either man or woman, but as neither. They might not even feel like they have "neutral" gender. It's more "404: gender not found", which doesn't fit neatly into a binary gender system.

Sex and gender are different. Sex is biology, gender is cultural/social. My doctor might need to know my plumbing, hormones, and chromosomes, but my coworkers don't. Someone's perceived sex at birth gives them their 'default' gender, but they might end up not being that gender when they're able to voice their own feelings on the subject.

(caveat: I do not speak for all agender people, non-binary gender language evolves, it can be wibbly-wobbly fuzzy at times. Also, I do see myself under the Trans umbrella because 'the more the merrier' and there's no need to fragment the non-cis community. Alternative definitions of "trans" can be broader, and include "anyone who doesn't identify with the gender assigned to them at birth")

Edit: this instagram post sums it up nicely https://www.instagram.com/the_crafty_queer/p/CzqzG4oOf-8/?img_index=1

[-] atro_city@fedia.io -4 points 4 months ago

You could call somebody a slur then go "why are you getting worked up? It's what you are, look at this definition in the book". A person can say "I don't want to be called that", regardless of who they are. If you don't respect it, you're not being nice.

Simple as

[-] breadsmasher@lemmy.world 11 points 4 months ago

… you think cisgender or transgender is a slur?

Ok. “call me a person to my face. see what happens”. If you’re not a person, what label do want?

[-] BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.world 17 points 4 months ago

Their point isn't entirely invalid.

I feel like everyone has a right to self identify and label themselves how they wish, or choose to not be labeled at all. It's fundamentally the same concept the trans/etc community has been pushing for for a very long time and it's difficult to justify rejecting it just because we may not like the person making use of it at the moment.

[-] Verserk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 4 months ago

I've certainly seen people attempt (and fail) to use cis as a slur online in an intentional way.

[-] atro_city@fedia.io 4 points 4 months ago

… you think cisgender or transgender is a slur?

Bro, I wrote 3 sentence that say no such thing and yet, you think that's what I wrote. Read it again. Good grief.

A person can say "I don't want to be called that", regardless of who they are. If you don't respect it, you're not being nice.

Is that really that difficult to understand? If it is, maybe you need to go back to 6th grade and start over because your reading level wouldn't even be that.

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