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[-] Sanctus@lemmy.world 116 points 5 months ago

Owning a car. I want to walk in a city made for people. I can't afford to move.

[-] NataliePortland@lemmy.ca 24 points 5 months ago

I live in a major city but like I’m in a bad neighborhood so there’s only one grocery store within 5 miles. It makes no sense. A food desert in a major city so that I’m forced to drive just to like get screws from a hardware store or toilet paper or something

[-] azimir@lemmy.ml 8 points 5 months ago

Our US city (pop 180k, metro 600k) is just about to lose the last downtown grocery store.

Generations of city councils have allowed (or encouraged!) the demolition of all housing in the city core to replace it with parking lots.

There's almost no one left downtown so the city itself is dying. It's just kind of rotting away. There's currently at least some effort to reverse the trend, but the vice grip that car oriented everything has on people is terrifying to politicians.

[-] weeeeum@lemmy.world 22 points 5 months ago

Same. My work is only a mile away but there are hardly any sidewalks and I often have to walk next to roads going like 40 mph. Plus all of the intersections and crosswalks are catered for car travel, meaning there has to be absolutely zero cars to give you the signal to walk. Crossing a single crosswalk "legally" takes like 5 or 10 mins of waiting.

In Amsterdam the crosswalks are catered for pedestrians and you typically only need to wait 15-30 seconds as they don't mind stopping a few cars.

[-] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 63 points 5 months ago
[-] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 24 points 5 months ago

Same. I got kicked out of a therapy group for the self-destructive today, fifth time something like this happened based on rumors that made people in charge think "we make a living encouraging people to be satisfied with life, but this woman doesn't deserve it."

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[-] doctortofu@reddthat.com 59 points 5 months ago

Eating out of stress or boredom instead of when I'm actually hungry. I am getting better, but still, sometimes work pisses me off so much it's back to angrily stuffing whatever food I have on hand into my gaping maw...

[-] NataliePortland@lemmy.ca 57 points 5 months ago

I want to stop ruminating about things I wish I would have said or some stupid thing I did say or why did I do that

[-] nehal3m@sh.itjust.works 19 points 5 months ago

Forgiving yourself is difficult. You have grown enough to realize what you did was dumb. Whenever your brain decides to throw a random cringe memory in your face, consciously tell yourself you’re better now and you forgive yourself for your mistakes. It helped me.

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[-] calabast@lemm.ee 8 points 5 months ago

To get out of those spirals, I just remind myself that I've probably forgotten hundreds of things other people probably regret saying/doing, and odds are most people probably forgot mine. Even if I'm sure someone didn't forget it, I doubt they ever think about it anymore.

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[-] FrostyCaveman@lemm.ee 52 points 5 months ago

Working “full time”. I love what I actually do at work (generally) but like… doing it 9-6 five days a week is so fucking draining. It feels like working defined hours for the sake of working in those hours. Obviously for most jobs the hours spent working do matter, but for software development it may actually be counterproductive as being tired fucks up your productivity hard

[-] treadful@lemmy.zip 14 points 5 months ago

It's kind of funny. When I'm working on my own stuff, I could easily dump like 60+ hours a week into it. But once there's an obligation to work on something, especially if it's scheduled, 40 is unbearable.

[-] FrostyCaveman@lemm.ee 8 points 5 months ago

Yep, my experience exactly. It’s mostly because I can define my own hours when working for myself. But also - When I’m working for someone else there’s also a nagging feeling that I’m pissing away my life force if I go as much as a single hour over.

[-] Senseless@feddit.de 11 points 5 months ago

Same. Idike to tone it down to 32h/week or even better 24h/week. So 8, respectively 6 hours a day for four days. Working for a non-profit organisation and even though we a trade agreement, because we're unionised, living in a city on my own I couldn't pay the bills if I'd cut hours.

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[-] GnuLinuxDude@lemmy.ml 39 points 5 months ago

This isn’t a personal habit but flying. If I could never ever in my life ever have to go through a stupid security theater checkpoint at an airport and then board a plane and sit like a sardine for hours on end…

Too bad I live in public transit shithole USA

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[-] Plopp@lemmy.world 38 points 5 months ago

Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.

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[-] RGB3x3@lemmy.world 31 points 5 months ago

Fucking eating just too much that I can't meet my weight loss goals.

I'm not overweight by any means, but if I don't fix my diet, all the exercise I do isn't worth nearly as much.

[-] z00s@lemmy.world 19 points 5 months ago

Exercise isn't worth nearly as much as eating habits anyway.

A false narrative of exercise being like weight loss currency has been promoted for way too long.

When losing weight, it's "kilos in the kitchen, grams in the gym". You can lose weight with no exercise just with a caloric deficit.

Read "the hackers diet" or "the 4 hour body" for more info.

[-] wewbull@feddit.uk 9 points 5 months ago

Yes and no.

You have to eat less than you consume, and going to the gym doesn't "burn calories" in a significant enough amount to make a difference. So there you're right.

However, the biggest factor in your consumption rate is how much muscle you have. You can be laying in bed, but your muscles still need feeding. You just don't keep muscles very long laying in bed all the time.

So, does the gym help weight loss? No, not directly, but increasing your muscle mass can.

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[-] Chef@sh.itjust.works 15 points 5 months ago

Not encouraging you or anyone to take Ozempic but the fact that they work so well for weight loss proves that there is a biological pathway that reinforces overeating. It’s beyond the dopamine feedback loop - there is an actual biochemical reason that we are compelled to overeat. It validates the idea that being successful at weight management isn’t decided by willpower alone. Some people are just more biochemically predisposed to overeat.

These new GLP-1 receptor agonists have shown promise mitigating many compulsive behaviors from overeating to alcoholism to behavioral compulsions. It’s a new area of pharmacology and I’m super excited to watch them discover novel treatments for all manners of issues.

[-] tamal3@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

Running is surprisingly fun once you get in shape enough to enjoy it -- and has an effect on what i eat bc planning to go running later in the day has a pretty big effect on how mindfully i consume. I can't have a huge meal or chug water last minute and feel good while running.

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[-] juliebean@lemm.ee 29 points 5 months ago

right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.

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[-] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 14 points 5 months ago

Aging is a good sign tho. The only people that don't age are dead.

[-] KingGordon@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

Only one way to stop and i don’t recommend it.

[-] squid_slime@lemm.ee 23 points 5 months ago

Worrying. Anxiety sucks..

[-] Darohan@lemmy.zip 22 points 5 months ago

Opening Instagram instead of Lemmy or Mastodon :(

[-] jeena@jemmy.jeena.net 35 points 5 months ago

Pro tip: delete the app on your phone. Needing to put in the website into the browser breaks the misscle memory and you can then easier replace it with something else.

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[-] rubberduh@lemmy.world 22 points 5 months ago
[-] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 20 points 5 months ago

Worrying what other people think of me.
I know I shouldn’t care, but it’s hard not to.

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[-] Delphia@lemmy.world 20 points 5 months ago

Chewing nicotine gum.

Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.

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[-] Lifecoach5000@lemmy.world 19 points 5 months ago

Vaping nicotine. I know I can stop but it’s just a very difficult challenge for me. Still better than smoking cigs but I really need to let this vice go.

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[-] Twitches@lemm.ee 17 points 5 months ago

Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.

[-] emergencybird@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago

I want to stop being a perfectionist. I tend to overthink very simple tasks, trying to make sure I do things in the most efficient manner. Agonize over mistakes. I find it funny that I'm so critical of myself but I would never think to apply that to other people. I'm working on it, it's just very difficult

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[-] hellofriend@lemmy.world 15 points 5 months ago
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[-] Wistful@discuss.tchncs.de 15 points 5 months ago

Overthinking everything and being a "perfectionist". So hard to finish or even start doing anything.

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[-] andrewta@lemmy.world 13 points 5 months ago

The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It's basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don't just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.

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[-] lemmefixdat4u@lemmy.world 12 points 5 months ago

Me: I wish I could stop paying taxes. Genie: poof Wish granted! Me: Woah...I don't feel so good! Genie: It's a fatal heart attack.

[-] JokeDeity@lemm.ee 11 points 5 months ago

Thinking about a selfish heartless cunt.

[-] scytale@lemm.ee 11 points 5 months ago

Sweets. I’ve been through a ton of dental work the past year partly because of my love for sweets and desserts. Now that my teeth are on their way to recovery, it’s the risk of diabetes this time.

[-] Tarogar@feddit.de 10 points 5 months ago

All those dang tiny time wasters that happen every day. Needing to eat and drink... That kind of stuff. Can't stop because I obviously enjoy being healthy.

[-] demizerone@lemmy.world 10 points 5 months ago

I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.

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[-] Valmond@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago

Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.

It's the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.

Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.

Mint runs perfektly.

USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.

Super silent.

You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.

Plug in two screens and just hack away.

🥰

[-] Zatore@lemm.ee 8 points 5 months ago

Eating fast food. I do a ton of driving for my job and am frequently hours from home. I could pack my own meals, but the company covers lunch if I'm away from the office. I don't have to stop for any health reason, I just don't really like the taste after five years of the same things over and over. I'd be more ok with it if there were more options, but I'm in a rural part of the country.

[-] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 5 months ago

I would love to stop having, not sure if they would technically be termed as flashbacks or PTSD-related anxiety attacks, but either way if those came with an off button that would be great.

Upside: sometimes my smart watch thinks I did an hour of exercise while I'm actually just sitting there with a heart rate of 120+ and it congratulates me 🥰

If that doesn't count because it's something I can't really control, then probably picking at my cuticles. Bad habit I've had since I was a toddler that I've never been able to fully kick.

[-] exanime@lemmy.today 7 points 5 months ago

Spending too much time on lemmy

[-] barsquid@lemmy.world 7 points 5 months ago
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