Anybody got any, like, advice?

Quit nosing around on your dad's computer?

What is there to get over? I'm fifty. I have sex with my wife - I'm talking dirty, messy fucking sex, not thirty seconds of missionary. I masturbate. In lots of ways, I'm a fifteen year old with 35 years of experience. I think that's most people. That's just... life. Welcome to not being sheltered from it?

Come to peace with the fact that your dad is an adult separate from his role as your dad. He might even drink or partake of the devils lettuce. He has dreams and aspirations separate from his responsibility to your family.

Anybody got any, like, advice?

Be happy you didn't find 250 home burnt DVDs of porn in the attic.

I'm in my 30s now, so perhaps I am out of touch with my younger self, but I don't remember being bothered by the idea of my parents sexuality.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think it's abnormal to be bothered by it. I've heard plenty of people joke about how gross it is that their parents had sex or whatever. I don't really understand it exactly. I guess maybe it's just an embarrassing subject!

Also, not to pile on, but don't look at your poor old dad's web history! What a nightmare! Lol

Your parents are sexual beings like everyone else.

Some people eventually realize that their parents are also people, not gods.

An example of why the phrase "Don't ask questions you don't want the answer to" has wisdom.

Just rearrange your life so you never have a quiet moment of reflection ever again.

Get a shitty old car with no muffler. Break the windows and replace them with plastic. Turn on NPR at max volume and then never touch the dial again. Buy a pack of cigarettes and a lighter. Light one of the cigarettes and suck the smoke into your lungs. Repeat this until the cigarette’s burned away, the repeat that 20 times, then repeat that every day. Get in a feud with your neighbor and make sure it devolves into night time disco ball laser pointer milkdrop light show visualization battles one one another’s ceilings. If you don’t already live in an apartment with shitty blinds incapable of blocking line of sight to the outside, move to one immediately. Take your feuding neighbor with you.

I don't have any good advice, but I can relate. As a kid you only get one (very limited) view of your parents. Over time these awkward but eye-opening moments happen where you have to realize they are normal people, too.

If you really want some fun, hang out with your parents' old friends and ask them for stories. You might learn more about your folks than you expect (or want).

I was going through router logs (was not looking for anything, just exploring all the things in the router’s web interface) and I found all of my son’s porn search queries from his 3ds.

You could monitor each other’s porn use like the US Speaker of the House and his son. 🤢🤮

Heh. Used my brothers browser. Started typing in the search bar. Got a list of urls I'd rather not mention. Just went downstairs and asked him to clear his history and switch off recommendations before powering down.

It's MILF porn and I can't help but find that a little adorable.

Thinking about it made you feel uncomfortable. Stop thinking about it. Get on with your life as if it didn't happen.

How would you have reacted to if the roles were reverse here (he snooped and found your porn if you had it)?

Not trying to sound prosecutorial, its simply helpful to start with your own feelings about your privacy and autonomy as an exercise here

You just have to deal with it.

i had to think on this a little bit, and knowing you're a woman helped me see where you were coming from, i think

and i think you should reflect on what looking at porn says to you about a person. because there can be a lot of baggage attached and - at least for me, as a guy who likes porn - i've already had to come to terms with that stuff. but it's hard to know if someone else has done that kind of inner reflective work about what most people treat as a throwaway hobby

it's also kind of like, how comfortable are you with your own sexuality? are you asexual? how did your folks treat sex and sexuality growing up?

i don't have any answers for you, and you certainly don't need to answer any of these questions in a public forum on the internet. but hopefully they help you understand and resolve what's troubling you

fwiw, my dad is super careless about it LMAO i found his porn bookmarks by accident as a kid. and nowadays his steam notifies me when he hops on hentai games 💀💀💀 but yknow what, good for him, hope he's having a good time

Now you have a new porn pal.