Gitlab uses a ton of resources and is a pain to setup. Once you get it going, it's fine.

Going to echo what others have said: Use Gitea or Forgejo instead if you can. Both have runners you can setup like gitlab, but they instead mimic github actions instead of gitlab ci/cd.

I run a semi-private gitea instance, and have not had any problems past the initial setup in 2+ years.

For self hosting there is also https://forgejo.org/ which is a fork of https://about.gitea.com/ , the latter of which started to shift to a corporate model.

I have been maintaining several self-hosted GitLab instances over the past 5 years, and it rarely takes me longer than 20minutes per update.

Their upgrade paths are clearly marked and well thought out. Their packaging methods are of great quality.

You will not regret going with GitLab.

I tried hosting Gitlab for a while, but configuration and upgrades were difficult, and your really have to stay on top of updates due to vulnerabilities. It also used a lot of resources and wasn't super responsive.

I moved to Forgejo (a hard fork of Gitea), and haven't looked back; I cant recommend it enough. It's fast, doesn't take a lot of resources, actively developed, and has all the features I need.

Codeberg is a public instance of Forgejo if you want to try it out first.

I remember Gitlab requiring quite a large amount of resources, so if you're talking about a solo project, I'd skip it and go with something a lot leaner like Gitea, personally.

I've never had any security issues with GitHub in the past though, and extended features are free for open source projects, so it's kind of hard to ignore.

What are the features you need from your host? If it’s just remote syncing, why not just make a small Debian system and install git on it? You can manage security on the box itself. Do you need the overhead of gitlab at all?

I say this because I did try out hosting my own GitLab, GitTea, Cogs, etc and I just found I never needed any of the features. The whole point was to have a single remote that can be backed up and redeployed easily in disaster situations but otherwise all my local work just needed simple tracking. I wrote a couple scripts so my local machine can create new repos remotely and I also setup ssh key on the remote machine.

I don’t have a complicated setup, maybe you do, not sure. But I didn’t need the integrated features and overhead for solo self hosting.

For example, one of my local machine scripts just executes a couple commands on the remote to create a new folder, cd into it, and then run git init —bare then I can just clone the new project folder on the local machine and get started.

I am selfhosting my Gitlab and it's one of the less troubling services I run.

I followed their documentation for setup and update gitlab biyearly, as far as I remembered I never had to revert to a backup, even after I skipped updates for a little over a year.

I run GitLab with docker compose and watchtower, all the updates are automated and have never caused any issues for me.

That being said my setup uses about 7-8gb of ram.

First question is why do you want a forge ? Knowing the feature you need out of it is what should drive your decision.

Personally I would question the benefit of allocating ~5% of your work time to anything that isn't core building your product but that's up to you.