Selfhosted

I self-host various applications and have been really happy with Wireguard. After watching just how hard my firewall gets hammered when I have any detectable open ports I finally shut down everything else. The WG protocol is designed to be as silent as possible and doesn't respond to remote traffic unless it receives the correct key, and the open WG port is difficult to detect when the firewall is configured correctly.

Everything - SSH, HTTP, VNC and any other protocol it must first go through my WG tunnel and running it on an OpenWRT router instead of a server means if the router is working, WG is working. Using Tasker on Android automatically brings the tunnel up whenever I leave my house and makes everything in my home instantly accessible no matter what I'm doing.

Another thing to consider is there's no corporation involved with WG use. So many companies have suddenly decided to start charging for "free for personal use" products and services, IMO it has made anything requiring an account worth avoiding.

Tailscale is great in that config is super simple. Downsides tailscale ssh has to be called at launch if you want ssh access over that network... Could be a benefit for security...however its a tailscale specific ssh and not everything is available.
Data servers moved to the USA a few ears back.

Wireguard is more setup, but a better (self host option ). There is also Headscale if you want to selfhost a tailscale type server

I use a mixture of tailscale and zerotier. Both are pretty powerful.

I run pfsense as my router on a small form factor PC with two Ethernet cards. I run Wireguard which is pretty easy to setup in pfsense. I have the client installed on my PC at work and my mobile devices. I'm never more than a click from being connected to my home network.

In the past I used ssh tunnels with port forwards to the services I wanted to access remotely.

Tailscale. You don't need to open up ports + you can set up exit nodes, which are useful if you're sailing the seven seas.

I do have both (VPN and Reverse Proxy) running. For VPN my router uses Wireguard and at work we use Wireguard as well. You can alter the config in such a way, that only internal traffic would get routed through your VPN. I love this, because for regular traffic, I'm not bound to the upload at my home network or with work, route my personal traffic through the company internet or lose access to my own network.

Reverse proxy isn't bad either. I have a DNS running at home, that redirects my domain used for home stuff, directly to the reverse proxy. This way I can block certain stuff, I want a fancy domain but not be accessed from the outside, because its not needed or not set up properly.

With a VPN, you would be more secure, because its a single instance you need to keep safe. With regular updates and set up properly, this shouldn't be an issue. But I would suggest reading tech news portals, that do cover security breaches of well known software.

With a reverse proxy setup I use, I must trust so many things. I must trust my reverse proxy with the firewall and then each server I run.

But keep one thing in mind. If you for example use stuff like Home Assistant, that you access in the background, it wouldn't work if you connect via a VPN. With Wireguard I can be connected 24/7 to my VPN, even at home. With the previous VPN my router used (I guess it was OpenVPN), this wasn't possible.

Run WireGuard on some home machine. (Does not need to be the machine the app you want to access is hosted on.)

Run WireGuard on your road warrior system.

There is no step 3.

I'm doing this right now from halfway around the world from my house and it's been great. Been using iPhone, iPad, and macOS clients connected to linuxserver/WireGuard docker container. Been doing this on many WiFi networks and 5G, no difference.

Also a beginner here, I use Tailscale, and it's been a very easy setup!

Wireguard is the way to go. I like using wg-easy to use wireguard because its easy to set up in a docker container.

Managing Wireguard is just one of Tailscale's features.

It uses some UDP black magic fuckery to get through NAT and firewalls without having to open ports on the edge. Very useful if you're behind CGNAT and/or your ISP is a dickhead and locks down the firewall on your router (this is why I use it; eat a dick, Vodafone). If the UDP fuckery is not available, it reverts to simple relay servers. The client can also advertise subnets and route to hosts on it. You could install the Tailscale client on OPNSense/pfSense/OpenWRT and access your entire home network through that one device.

Simple and fast solution is tailscale. tailscale is a business, but it works well

Personally i use opnsense and wireguard

Tailscale is easier than Wireguard but if you're running OPNsense or OpenWRT it's not hard to do a wireguard infra of your own and avoid having to use an outside service. I ended up having to revert to wireguard anyway because Tailscale's android app wasn't reliable on my new phone, it would drop out every few hours which messed up my monitor/alert system.

But Tailscale is still the easier of the two solutions.

Tailscale. You can make a free account and they have clients for most things. If you want to self host, Headscale.

I rarely if ever see ZeroTier mentioned as a solution, but it's a self-hostable encrypted virtual mesh network (with a small free tier for corp-hosted), super secure, and really easy to setup. I use ZTnet instead of the free-tier corp-hosted controller

You got two options which I’ve tried -

1. A solution like tailscale or zerotier. Simple setup, easy to turn on and just go. Tailscale is newer and has a nicer interface and features like using an actual VPN like Mullvad as an “endpoint” (or whatever they call it). Their Mullvad connection also basically gives you a discount as they charge only $5 for the vpn instead of €5. The catch is that Mullvad charges you that price for 5 devices. So if a sixth device connects to the VPN through tailscale, you get charged $10 for that month.
2. A cloudflare tunnel with zero trust on top. More work to setup. But makes it easy to access your apps without any vpn. They’re basically exposed to the internet at that point, but locked in behind cloudflare’s authentication. You can literally set it up for one or two email IDs. Yours and a family member’s. Much simpler for others to wrap their heads around. But some people dislike cloudflare for some reason or the other.

Zero tier. I went tailscale originally, and they're good, but their mdns support doesn't exist and several services rely on it. (For me, the showstopper was time machine backups)

Not running anything myself but am part of a self hosting discord that swears by Netbird because its basically Tailscale but with a bunch more ease of use features apparently

If your traffic is pretty low, rent a VPS for $5/month or whatever and set up a Wireguard server on it, have your devices maintain a connection to it (search keepalive for Wireguard), and set up HAProxy to do SNI-based routing for your various subdomains to the appropriate device.

Benefits:

• you control everything, so switching to a new provider is as simple as copying configs instead of reconfiguring everything
• most VPN companies only route traffic going out, not in; you can probably find one that does, but it probably costs more than the DIY option
• easy to share with others, just give a URL

Downsides:

• more complicated to configure
• bandwidth limitations

If you only need access on devices you control, something like Tailscale could work.

Benefits:

• very simple setup - Tailscale supports a ton of things
• potentially free, depending on your needs

Downsides:

• no public access, so you'd need to configure every device that wants to access it
• you don't control it, so if Tailscale goes evil, you'd need to change everything

I did the first and it works well.

Wireguard with WG Tunnel on my phone so it automatically connects when I leave my WiFi. Some Apps excluded to use it like Android Auto because it doesn't work with an active vpn.

I’m in the same boat and currently run WireGuard to access my services. However the more I extend my stack of services, the more I have use-cases to expose certain services to friends and family. For that I’m currently looking into using Pangolin.

I use the built-in Wireguard feature of my Fritzbox to connect to my home network.

1 pangolin 2 whatever is already on your router 3 wireguard

Pangolin also does RP with traefik so it's a win win