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On work days, after your alarm goes off, how long do you remain in bed before you actually get up?

What do you find yourself doing between that first alert and actually getting up?

Do you have wake up rituals?

How long do you let it continue?

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[–] Presently42@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 hour ago

45 minutes. I remember a Japanese study from years ago concluded, that 45 minutes was the optimal amount of time needed to waken

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

The bedroom alarm? Immediately. It's very loud and I refuse to disturb sibling sleep for that long.

My phone alarm? Whine and roll around while muting it because it's next to me then get up in a few minutes.

[–] iamdefinitelyoverthirteen@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago) (1 children)

53 minutes, at time of writing.

[–] troglodyte_mignon@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

I get out of bed right away. I’ve placed my alarm clock at the other side of the room and I sleep in an elevated bed, so once I’ve turned off the alarm, I can’t just trivially climb back into my bed, even when I haven’t slept enough.

(I use a Lexon Flip Mini and I’m satisfied with both the noise it makes and the way it works. There’s no way I would trust my phone with that task. I set phone alarms for many other things, that said.)

After I’m up, I immediately go to the bathroom and go through a whole routine (centered on showering), which I trained myself to always do in the same order so I wouldn’t have to think about it. After that, I dress in the clothes I’d laid out the evening before, I go back into my room (which contains both my bed and a tiny kitchen), eat, and put food and water/tea for the day into my bag.

On my days off, if I’m not feeling too tired and discouraged, I go for a run just after turning off my alarm and go through the bathroom routine just after coming back.

Like many people in the comments, I typically wake up just before the alarm — unless I haven’t slept enough for a few days, which used to be a rare occurence but happens way too often nowadays.

[–] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 hours ago

I looked up that flip mini. It's fun.

[–] Don_alForno@feddit.org 3 points 10 hours ago

I am half awake at least 15 minutes before my alarm. As soon as I hear the first 3 notes I sit straight in bed and get up.

I hate being like this.

[–] Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org 3 points 11 hours ago

I'm usually already awake by the time my alarm goes off. It's just a fallback. I start every day the same. I open the window, put seeds out for the pigeons, pet my cat who usually wakes up with me, drink coffee while watching the pigeons together with my cat, then I get back into bed and scroll Lemmy until it's actually time to get ready. Sometimes past the time to get ready so from time to time I run late despite already being up for several hours.

[–] Jomn@jlai.lu 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

I usually wake up before the alarm. If I don't, I get up immediately, I don't like staying in the bed.

Alarm? You all use alarms?

[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 1 points 10 hours ago

The whole day

[–] AppleStrudel@reddthat.com 3 points 15 hours ago

Depends on how sleep deprived I am. It was about 30 min today.

[–] reddig33@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Why is the sleep so much heavier the first ten minutes after hitting snooze? It it some kind of “sleep recovery” hormone??

[–] iii@mander.xyz 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I typically wake up before the alarm

[–] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

By what sorcery is such possible!

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 day ago

Get to bed early. Takes some trial and error to figure out how many hours you need, but once you’ve done that, you can wake up without an alarm.

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[–] Opisek@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

NEGATIVE latency!

[–] Master@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If I was between rem cycles then immediately. If it caught me mid cycles im going to struggle to get up for about 30 minutes.

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[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

Anywhere from 15 min to 2.5 hours after the alarm easily. The people ITT who wake up at the same time every day without an alarm y'all are crazy, if I didn't have the alarm I'd never wake up on time, and whenever I'm off work for a week or when I had holidays off school as a kid my sleep schedule would just drift by 2-3 hours forward every day.

[–] troglodyte_mignon@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Are you able to get enough sleep? If you don’t, it’s perfectly normal that your body tries to sleep longer.

I almost always set my alarm as a security, but honestly, waking up by myself before the alarm is way better. The alarm is a lot more brutal, being jerked awake by a loud noise is pretty scary after all. I always feel more tired when I’ve been woken up by the alarm, compared to when I wake up naturally.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] CrankyPants@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago

In this thread

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[–] Red_October@piefed.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I have two alarms. The first one is sort of a soft-wake up. Sometimes I'll wake then and fuss around on my phone for a while, sometimes I'll just shut it off and go back to sleep, but either way I can't ignore it or it will start reading news headlines.

Second alarm is a half hour later, that one means it's time to wake up, and I have 15 minutes to get out of bed if I want to keep my routine on pace, or I need to immediately get in the shower if I didn't shower the night before.

I technically also then have a third alarm that assumes I'm dressed and had breakfast and everything, and that just means it's time to pack my shit and get out the door. It mostly just keeps me from stressing about watching the clock.

In keeping with my routine I pretty much always arrive to work in a five minute window, and most of that variation is just how much time I spent petting the cat before I finally went out the door.

[–] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago

I kind of like this initial alarm idea. Sleep if you want. Play if you want. But the second alarm is business time!

[–] Hawke@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Estimate based on right now: 30 min.

If I’m being responsible instead of doom-scrolling: 20 min tops.

[–] DarkFuture@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I have my snooze set for 5 minutes.

I usually hit it 5-6 times before actually getting up. So, from the first alarm I'm usually still in bed for about half an hour.

I am not a morning person.

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m quitting drinking (heavily, for many many years) so some days I’ve been laying there awake for hours, and some days I JUST FELL BACK ASLEEP GODDAMMIT so maybe ten minutes. Occasionally I slept the whole ass night so I’m laying there for a half hour or more.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well done on making a hard choice, and best of luck for the future 🙏

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Thank you muchly! Got really into it starting with Covid, plateauing at maybe eight beers and six shots every day. Cut hard booze out, tapered beers down, and when I had my first day completely sober in maybe seven years, zero withdrawal symptoms. Same with the next day. And the next. I was shocked!

…the sleep, though. The sleep is ROUGH.

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh mate, yeah the pandemic got a lot of people that way. Really insidious. Great work for tapering down and getting sober though, you should be very proud of yourself!

The sleep sucks. I had my last drink 122 days ago, and could barely sleep for a week or two. If I wasn't anxious, I was just wired for no reason. It just felt so strange to get into bed, conscious and without the room spinning.

Waking up felt weird at first too, always expecting a hangover and a wave of hangxiety that never came -- but so rewarding once you realise why.

I hope you can continue as long as you want to 🙏🤘

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh thank you so much! I’m proud of you, that’s awesome!

My partner and I drank together, and are quitting together. MOSTLY quitting—we still have some drinks on Fridays and Saturdays at this point, but nothing like we used to. Sleep is slowly getting better on weekdays! Waking up DOES feel suuuper weird!

I used to wake up and feel okay until around 1-2PM, then the hangover would hit me. Maybe I was waking up still kinda drunk. Now on weekdays, around midday when I’d usually start feeling shitty, I just.. keep… feeling good? What a strange feeling!

The biggest thing for me is driving. I only ever drank in the evenings, and never drove after I had a drop. When I was drinking heavily every night though, driving during the day would give me horrible anxiety and I had a panic attack twice on the highway. Now I can drive like a normal person and I feel normal doing it! MAGIC

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 2 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Thank you mate! 🙏

Oh amazing, it's good to have somebody there with you and it's great that you're both on the same page with your goals here!

Taking it down to a level that's healthy for you is the ultimate goal, whether that's drinking on the weekend (which is absolutely fine and not any less of an achievement) or going teetotal -- we're on the same journey as long as you're trying!

The painful stages of sleep recovery are certainly miserable but once you're back to where you need to be, it feels so good to be able to wake up actually refreshed! I haven't slept well this week (for other reasons) until last night, and this morning was a genuine joy waking up and realising I didn't feel like a bomb had gone off inside my head lol

Getting rid of that overarching anxiety makes such a huge difference too! It's crazy how totally normal things suddenly feel novel and magical when you're not putting your nervous system through all sorts of chemical topsy-turviness all the time, right?

I'm glad it's working for you! 🥳

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Thank you so much for the very sweet support! You’re wonderful. I hope your sleep, for whatever reason it’s bad, gets better soon as well!

[–] rayquetzalcoatl@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago

Awh thanks! You too 🙏

[–] GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Hot damn. Good on you for the work. But the sleep is rough. I hope you can find ways to address that.

[–] Rai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

Time will heal my sleep! Just gotta wait for my GABA to stabilize after all these years!

[–] Fiivemacs@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

depends, is it my first alarm or the 30th alarm?

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[–] IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

10 years ago, I'd snooze until the last moment and then rush to get ready on time. No idea why; just couldn't force myself out of bed.

Today (including, literally, this morning) I'm awake at least 15-30 minutes before my alarm goes off. Wake up ritual is basically:

  • Pee
  • Put coffee on
  • Let dogs outside
  • Have coffee on the patio while the dogs do their business and play
  • Answer any texts/messages that came in after I went to bed
  • Check the news and weather
  • If time allows, read a chapter of whatever book I'm on
  • Start getting ready for work

I think the change was realizing those extra 20-30 minutes of sleep (if I could even get back to sleep at all) weren't going to make me any more awake when I do have to get up. Then it was just a matter of figuring out how to use that time effectively.

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[–] BakedCatboy@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 day ago

I usually wake up multiple times before my alarm goes off, so usually I call it at an hour before and just turn off my alarm, then stay in bed for about an hour until my alarm would have gone off, sometimes 30 minutes past that, then I finally get up.

[–] Cris_Color@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

If I'm doing well half an hour, if I'm doing crappy (typical) an hour. If I'm doing exceptionally poorly, like an hour and half

But I'm not currently working and have a sleep disorder that makes things funky. I need to get better about it though

[–] Perspectivist@feddit.uk 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

30 seconds? However long it takes to regain some level of consciousness again. I don't see the point of staying in bed when you have to get up anyway. I also probably was already awake.

No rituals or anything. Just get up and get going. I never ever use my phone in bed for example.

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[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 23 hours ago

Either immediately get up or spend some minutes harassing myself to get up. Non work days way longer to get up.

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