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[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 99 points 4 days ago

I’ll take owning your ignorance over angry defensiveness any day

[–] Maxxie@piefed.blahaj.zone 183 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Wtf was that opening line, is he also new to humans

[–] lath@piefed.social 103 points 4 days ago (1 children)

For comparison, some dudes just send dick pics en masse and still manage to hook up without saying a word.

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 61 points 4 days ago (4 children)
[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 45 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I personally think, we should apply a shotgun to those dicks who randomly send dick picks.

[–] lost_faith@lemmy.ca 17 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I have known women who save dick pics specifically to reply to these messages

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 8 points 3 days ago

Hopefully replying with "Mine's bigger"

[–] cows_are_underrated@feddit.org 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

That's actually a very good idea

the shotgun method

[–] nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 4 days ago

I am convinced the world would be a better place, since unsolicited dick pics is a consent issue and I've got no love for those who don't find consent sexy

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[–] osaerisxero@kbin.melroy.org 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

On the other hand, it didn't get him an immediate block so maybe he was on to something there.

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[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 81 points 4 days ago (31 children)

Along with the rest of the wrongness, he's calling DID schizophrenia

[–] axEl7fB5@lemmy.cafe 20 points 4 days ago (4 children)

tf does DID mean? i dont understand all the terminology. i just got out of a 6 year relationship im new to this

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 7 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Honestly, it's what I read was the correct term when I googled multiple personality. Dissociative Identity Disorder. I just remembered schizophrenia isn't that, it's hearing voices, maybe hallucinating, being separated from reality, but you're still one you.

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[–] JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz 18 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Well, it's like comparing all neurominorities to down syndrome. That's why I need to fuck around with the genius political system I live in all the time.

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[–] FundMECFS@anarchist.nexus 26 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Why is no one commenting on how fucking sanist this is?

You’d be rightfully immediately reprehended if you said “you’re sexy asf for [X minority group]”. This applies here as well.

[–] Hypocrite9554@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

you're sexy as fuck for a lemming

If someone said "you're sexy asf for an autist" I'd punch them in the face and then start laughing my ass off. I wouldn't even be insulted for the insinuation I'd be insulted that they tried to compliment me, I do not need your compliments insult me like the hill savage that I am.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Seems like he tried to get as much shit mixed up as possible. Wtf was going on in his 6y relationship, church brainwashing?

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago

I swear, some people just love to cross every single wire at the same time. Why take everything one step at a time when you could just fall all over yourself by skimming everything and smashing it together because you’ve got fifteen things happening at once and are in control of precisely zero of them? See also: people who get confused and just throw their hands up in the air even if no one is judging them and the answers would come if they spent four honest minutes figuring it out.

It probably wasn’t his relationship and hell, his uselessness may even be why it ended.

[–] replicator@sh.itjust.works 41 points 4 days ago (1 children)
[–] Opisek@lemmy.world 6 points 3 days ago

The council accepts your apology.

[–] ilovepiracy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 64 points 4 days ago (1 children)

To be fair, dating was very different in 2015.

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I miss the pre-SESTA/FOSTA dating scene

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[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 4 days ago

TIL all systems are schizophrenic /s

[–] Jinarched@lemmy.ca 15 points 4 days ago (4 children)

It's Danganronpa's 'schizo' hangman all over again.

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