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You're not too smart to be fooled. Teach yourself about abusive narcissism and learn the signs of boundary violation. Your family loves you but they're clueless about this stuff. There is so much more you need to learn about relationships, and you have so many more options outside of high school, no need to rush. Oh, and you're what's called "demisexual", it's not really a thing yet but don't worry, there are others like you they're just rare. You can wear that pride ribbon without feeling awkward, you're just your own flavor of queer.
Oh, and drink more water.
In December of 2010 you will drunkenly buy 600 bitcoins at $0.50 per. You will manage to lose that hard drive while moving from Altoona to Lexington. Mark the drive and put is somewhere safe until 2020.
Also, you need to use this style of password, the ones you are using you won't remember long term.
Look, I know we hate brushing our teeth due to trauma. Get an electric and just do it. They absolutely will pull teeth you dingus.
But I wouldn't listen anyway.
Things will get much worse before they get better, but with time they'll be so much better. You just have to hang in there. You are a swan.
You really are ❤️
Your father will never stop being an asshole. He doesn’t deserve the tears you shed for him. You will be in a near fatal incident and, no matter how much his siblings plead with him, he won’t call you. He will die a painful, lingering death and he won’t tell you. He’s worthless and you should put your emotions into bettering yourself. He will continue his bullshit until you are in your 40s even when you haven’t spoken to him in over 20 years. Don’t cry over sorry trash like him. You deserve and will have better people in your life.
I’ve also been telling myself this since yesterday 🙃
You are a woman start HRT as soon as possible.
same ^
I was already depressed and fairly dysphoric by 16, that was also the age when I first heard about eunuchs and dreamed of being a eunuch and being accepted in society as a woman. Can't believe it took decades for me to figure it out, imagine the harm that could have been avoided if I had known and acted sooner ...
That I was always the woman I see today and to not be afraid of her.
I love this one ❤️
You're GAY
That is difficult. Usually I find kids and teens are very unwilling to listen to advice :P
Go get diagnosed with ADHD please! Go do that now! While you are still in school! Also, you are transgender so please go read about what that means please! Also look up "DIY HRT". Don't trust the doctors with your gender :(
You tried to kill yourself ffs go talk to an adult that isn't your dad. You need therapy.
It’s going to be okay.
You are going to get through this.
Don’t give up.
These are so supportive, I really like your compassion for your younger self
Oops. Didn’t realize this was women-only. Didn’t mean to intrude.
I’ll see myself out.
Ah np at all thanks for being so considerate ❤️
Everything you've been told about yourself is a lie.
Or alternatively you look great, your personality is great, you just are great.
Learn to say no and to advocate for yourself.
Don’t get married just because “it’s the next step” and “well I guess we’ve been together long enough🤷🏼♀️”! We divorced a year later. Stupid kids we were🤦🏻♀️
Get therapy.
Fuck what these clowns say or think of you. Enjoy this period in your life as much as you can. You will likely never experience the rush of freedom and possibility like you are right now.
Stop smoking now, you fucking idiot!
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I can't think of any advice I could give that I would have listened to at that age.
Now, if I could give my 16 year old self a few books ...
You might have been better off with music instead of marketing.
Say yes to Rebecca
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No, don't take the math way, go for humanities. But first get diagnosed for ADHD and ask the doctor about BPD and autism, because, you know? You have a pretty mix. Also, take your parents offer and start a new life in another school, maybe you might find friends there because here are none and won't be in the next years. Also, that idea of making games? First the diagnosis, and start creating ttrpg, all other stuff can be learned in internet, taking an engineering career is not the way. Take your meds, go to DBT, go to the psychologist, go to TO, and try to enjoy a.new life to be prepared to a world that will go to hell. And let your parents know that your struggling, that you are still under bullying, that the suicide of your best friends broke the hell of you, and that you need a lot of help...
Start investing in stock even though you can only afford a little bit now.