Sits at the computer, opens mail app… Anyways, let’s first check Lemmy. Oh! A post that describes exactly what I’m doing! I’ll just reply to it first then I’ll do the email.
Hey, it's been almost 20 minutes, whatcha up to now?
My wife is the best!!!!!!!!!!!!
I did write it in google docs. But I can’t send it somehow.
Man, your wife is a keeper.
My ex would say "you'll figure it out".
Then ask me later to send one for her, and get mad that I say I can't right now, I'm focused on work.
Then she'd forget to wrap presents. I would have too, to be fair, but I kept them in my office for a month so I always knew they needed to be wrapped. Still wrapped them Christmas eve, but the point is I didn't forget.
It was a terribly unhealthy relationship, and her offering to help induces far more jealousy than one might expect.
Sounds like it was a toxic relationship, glad you got out of it. She may not be a bad person, just not the right one for you. Did she also have ADHD?
Yeah she did. There was a lot of other stuff that I don't have details on.
Not "out of it" yet. It feels like the divorce is taking forever, and because we have a son anf no job with benefits I can't just kick her out. My mistake was thinking after she cheated on me 4 years ago that we could save it.
Thanks for reminding me!
I used to do IT Support in a 24h call centre and I did the night shift regularly.
I would get more work done than any other four employees in a shift by listening to 160bpm techno and smashing energy drinks all night.
Those seemingly endless hours of absolute hyperfocus and flow are something I miss.
I also hated the job but I fucking love problem solving and still miss it, despite not missing the pay rate!
I feel this. I used to have a job that involved popping difficult problems off the ‘hard problem’ queue, solving them and moving on. No one bothered me, I knew the set up and all was good. But it didn’t pay well, and now I manage people who get to have all the fun while I chase 30 minutes of focus in an 8 hour day.
Can I ask what you do for a job?
I look after the strategy team for the CISO of a financial services company. I do enjoy my job, but I’ve swapped debugging IT systems for debugging organisational systems, and there’s a frustrating amount of baggage (financial reporting, process reporting, people managment) that you have to carry to get to that table.
y'all really do be brute forcing life aren't'cha
Better to brute force it than to be stuck trying to figure out the 'smart way'
Without medication is there another way? I feel like my whole life up until now has been the brute force method.
Is that not standard?
It is for me
This is no exaggeration. I use caffeine medicinally too. And very selectively. Like once every few months for only urgent situations. Caffeine has a powerful therapeutic effect on me but unfortunately builds up tolerance quickly and becomes useless and addictive so I use it selectively and rarely but grateful it's an option once in a while.
I used to manage a rock club, and practically lived on energy drinks and takeaways. It's only the last few years that I've found out that I've almost certainly got ADHD, and every now and then a meme like this will pop up and give me an 'Oh yeah!' moment 😁
At one point I was working a five hour shift in the afternoon, fetching and carrying crates and beer barrels, going home for a few hours, then going back for another six to eight hours depending on the night. That was at least three days a week with a nine hour Saturday night shift on top. My dumb ass thought it was normal 🙈
I do the same. Except it’s Nordic deth metal; somehow it hacks my brain into finishing the report, or code, or email that I didn’t really want to write.
I save the techno for my happy-place deep-coding zone.
Don't forget the alcohol to lower the stress barrier, when the message is super important.:-D
Nah, sleep deprivation is the way to go
por queue no los dos? :-P
It's got to be above 120 BPM for me. I suggest UK Grime when you have gotten bored of EDM/Techno. Grime standard is 140 BPM. And British rappers are almost adorable in their lyrics compared to American rap.
I might be dating myself with this, but the best hyperfocus music for me is the song GAK Bitch - By the shizit. Also audio jihad, 32-bit whore, and some others. But mainly gak bitch!
Do other au/dhd also hate emails? I fucking hate emails but I felt like it was just me.
Better than phone calls, ha ha
Amen.
I don't "like" emails, but at least I have time to really think about how I'm phrasing things, and will have a written record record I can refer to later when my brain purges all the important work stuff to make room for things that are more interesting.
I hate emails too. The life hack is to go for a walk, have your brain subconsciously mull over what it wants to say, and then have your phone on the ready when the words come to you. I have several half-writtwn emails and posts sitting on my phone from when I've been on a walk.
The soundtrack of the first Unreal Tournament game by Michiel van den Bos and Alexander Brandon get my super focused. Especially Forgone Destruction I can get a flow lasting hours with that.
I really need to find the Quake 3 Rocket Arena (a mod) soundtrack.
That playlist was my getting shit done tunes.
Nightcore for me, regular high bpm stuff wasn't working for me.
caffeine makes me sleepy
Yes they are.
Oooof. This one hit REALLY close to home.
Wait.... Caffeine drinks, like coffee an energy drinks, have always made me sleepy and I've always had that attributed to my ADHD. Is that a possibility or have I been mislead?
For me it's got to be Colin stetson, Steve Reich or music for plants
This works for bpd / bipolar (not sure which yet) manic episodes too.
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