relation_anon4238

joined 2 days ago

Ugh, relatable. Bipolar Type 1 here.

 

Even in high school, though we’re minors (unless you’re an 18+ senior), I found the phrasing odd. I say man as an adult. I said “guy” instead in high school. Maybe it’s because I’m neurodivergent and it sounded better to my autistic brain. I dunno.

My fiancé isn’t a boy, I would never say I liked a boy or was engaged to a boy. I usually say a guy or a man, especially once he finally hits age 18.

Edit: Worse in a story I read. 25M, gay, says he wants to “prey on boys”. I can assure you this was not their intention and they meant he wanted to look for men around his age, but you know how it sounds,

 

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 2 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

J’ai écrit la majorité sauf pour les mots que j’ai oublié. Et ok, je ne savais pas :)

 

Like, no, you trying to beat me up every time I don’t do what you want can’t be excused with “just being mad”.

 

I did say I haven’t spoken to him since he moved out of the house to a hotel. This is true.

However, he’s been trying to reach me online and is desperate. My father (54M) is a narcissist. Though a lot of narcissists can be well-intentioned, he has done more harm than good.

My father is an alcoholic. Though he stopped for a year or two after becoming really nasty and getting himself and possibly us banned in more than one place, he started drinking again.

I knew my father was a narcissist. I tried to be on good terms with him despite his “eccentricities.” When I received a message from him asking to tell my mom to get back with him, I reluctantly told her and she didn’t want to.

He got mad at me for this and said I betrayed him and brought dishonor to our Chinese family (we’re white Europeans, by the way, with no affiliation to China). Anyway, I blocked him and so did the rest of the family.

Later, on instagram, I found an account with a profile picture of something I was interested in trying to chat with me, claiming to be a 17 year old girl. When I started to chat with “her”, she eventually brought up the “dishonor” again because “she” is Chinese and would know.

He has also said “ 你给家族带来了耻辱,真是可耻!” He is not Chinese, but speaks it at least a bit. I blocked that “girl” and I’m really hoping he doesn’t do it again. What do I do?

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Merci !! Mon fiancé m’a dit que ça compte aussi et que je parle français. Ça aide que j’ai compris la majorité de ce que vous avez dit et que parle l’espagnol et le portugais.

Mon ascendance est français :)

 

I’m looking for a region that speaks both Portuguese and Spanish but also maybe another similar, less spoken Romance language.

It can have similar culture but also different, unique culture. Either has to be in Spain or Portugal or nearby them so I could just drive to either country.

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Dzięki! Jestem początkująca więc mogę przeczytać większość z tego. Lepiej mówię po francusku 😅

Kocham twój język!

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

And the amount of languages grows by one each time I learn a new one

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Agreed! What language do you speak that’s not English? :)

 

I can confidently say that I speak Portuguese, Spanish, and English to varying degrees. However, at a beginner level, I know Norwegian, Italian, and Polish. I also am probably at a very beginner level in Russian and French, both of which I’m learning and getting better at. I’m conversing with French people.

My fiancé says I’m a polyglot, but I don’t know if I’m just trilingual or not.

[–] relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How long have you been with her?

 

I was peer pressured by my ex and a guy from school. He was an alcoholic and convinced me that alcohol was “cool”. I haven’t done alcohol though since a year or so ago. (Maybe New Year’s 2024?)

 

To me, money isn’t everything. It’d be nice if I got something that cost a lot, but I’d also be fine with something cheap as long as it’s high-quality and not like a Temu ring or something.

We got each other the same ring off Amazon for $12.😂 😅

 

I don’t know where to put this.

I’m a bicurious/hetero young white woman with Christian white parents. My dad found out I support gay rights despite identifying as straight. He didn’t really like that I have a Hispanic fiancé (he was okay with it, but he was like “you could do better, come on.”)

He called me a “leftist lib” because I support interracial marriages, gay marriages, trans rights, etc. How can you use supporting these things an insult though??

I also really want acceptance as someone who is neurodivergent and has seen neurodivergent people and minorities be bullied/discriminated against and also has been bullied themself.

 

I’m aware that this is probably a thing many people struggle with, their loved ones in the military. I’m one of them.

I’m proud of my gentlemanly fiancé. After all, he’s joining the military. But that’s the thing, after he turns 18, he will be signing up. My parents are very strict and we cannot actually see each other in person unless it’s somehow not considered a “date”. I have to be 21 to actually go on dates even if I am legally considered old enough.

Even so, he will be in the military, where there will not be a lot of time to go on dates.

I will not break up with him over this like one of his exes did. I am very proud that he’s joining, but I don’t know what to do when he’s away or to cope with loss.

Whatever I do, I won’t lose feelings for him.

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