Zero. We didn't get engagement rings, not later wedding bands. The first few years of our marriage we used to get asked about the wedding bands a lot, but people eventually got used to us not having any. I think it's probably been about 15 years since we last got asked about them.
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Rings costing more is a scam
Yup, eBay customized ring, completely replaceable. We saved the money from the ring cost and put it towards a down payment. 1000% sure it was a better use of money
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Just got married today and the ring was 200-300 USD but that was mainly the stone which is a big pretty opal
Congratulations! 🎉
You might already be aware but just in case, mind it around hot water. Opal is sensitive to temperature changes and can crack.
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$700 for moissanite ring and wedding band:
Amazingggg!
$1000 for my 1ct rose gold white sapphire ring, about $200 for hubby's ring from Etsy. Funny thing is just about every year after that, we've bought cool Etsy rings and enjoy them more than our initial ones. Etsy rings for the win 😊
About $1200 back in 2010. Got a nice enough ring she'd feel proud to show it to people, but didn't pay any more money than I'd saved up since I decided to propose.
To keep costs down I got a 'perfect' diamond with an occlusion you couldn't see without a jewelers loop, and had sapphires on the ring to add interest without increasing the size of the diamond.
I'm happy with the decision still 15 years later.
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The life of my great grandmother technically, though I'm sure she would have given it to me anyway.
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It was around $500 in the mid-90's. The stone was a high quality sapphire, which made up nearly all of the price.
I don't think I have ever bought a diamond.
Not much at all
Money doesn't matter to us
We went back and forth with ideas about rings, but we kept coming back to this one 
I bought this box separately, so that we can keep the wedding band nicely for the when we tie the knot
I've had the rings for a while now, and she doesn't know! I know she'll love it, it's the ring she liked the most out of all the ones we looked at
In a few weeks I'm going to give it to her
We got engaged months and months ago, but we're stuck doing the long-distance thing and our time together is precious
She's is going to lose her mind, and I can't wait!
Aaaaaaaahhhhh amazing!
I'm a lucky bastard!
She seems like a great lady
She's the best
How long have you been with her?
A little bit over a year
We're both older, we've both been married and all that shit, and we know what we want in life
We were both surprised at how our friendship blossomed into love, we didn't really think that it was feasible for us to have a "real" relationship given the challenges of our circumstances, but with love and work, we've made amazing things happen
I got a Stirling silver claddagh ring for my wife's engagement ring, i think it is $20 something. Our wedding rings were Stirling silver bands, $35 each and we had then engraved, which i think was $15 each.
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About 60€ for the wedding bands. Bought them on Etsy, made of epoxied wood with some blue in it, handmade in Poland. I insisted in not buying expensive since my husband is prone to misplace things. I was right. Not even a year in, he lost his. I now keep mine in a box. We talked about replacing his, but it is not really important for us. And we kept removing them for bouldering, cooking and other activities. Our bond does not rely on a ring.
I really can't recall but not a lot at all. To avoid the whole blood-diamond thing we bought a vintage one from a charity, where it had been donated.
That’s awesome!
$5000 CAD I think. My band is$300. But I'm wearing $10 bigger ring from Amazon. Fingers get chubby so the expensive rings are in a box for years now
$6,500 NZD, for a custom made ring, with blue lab grown diamond and two small pear shaped lab grown clear diamonds. About 1.5 months salary.
About 9k. Its my wedding ring and engagement ring. I only have one ring. My husband and I chose it out together, lab grown, custom and the ring I anticipate to wear for my whole life. We are fortunate enough to afford it.
That’s very awesome!!
I had no idea what to spend, but everyone told me three months salary. So that's what I paid. Was it too much, too little? I don't know, but I was dumbly in love. Still am, and I don't think about how much I spent now.
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I think I spent 400 for engagement ring and wedding bands together. Over time, it became clear that none of the rings matched, and only one of the three is quality material.
I wish I had spent more on the engagement ring to get a setting that doesn't stick out so much, it's too stabby and scratchy. I'd also want to track down a lab grown diamond if I had it to do over again.
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We went down to a pawn shop and I think we spent about $350 for both rings. They're both beautiful rings with real diamonds and a couple other stones
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If I got the maths right I paid the equivalent of € 510 for the pair. That was in '09 or '10, the actual cost was R$ 1100.
...it was a really nice pair. A shame the relationship didn't deserve it.maths
Acc. to this gov calculator 1100 reals in June 2009 have the same purchase power as 3277 reals in April 2025. The current real/euro conversion rate is 6.42:1, so 3277/6.42 = 510.
EDIT: worth mentioning it was an engagement, not a marriage.
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I designed my wife's wedding ring. I drew it up the evening we decided to get married. I still have the drawing. I then found a small independent custom shop and had it made. The diamond is actually small but looks massive because of the design.
Cost me $1,200 for it. Most of it was in the hours of labor to make it back in '00.
i bought an engagement ring for around 10000 DKK / 1550 USD. Which I thought was a lot, but I really liked the ring! For myself I bought a ring for 1000 DKK
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Engagement was €1500 as I recall; way too much, but it is pretty. We both worked with our hands at the time of marriage so $40 was our wedding ring budget and got tungsten carbide, which has its own (safety) issues. Currently wearing an overpriced but pretty silicone ring.
just curious, what are the safety issues you’ve found with Tungsten Carbide? I’m not a ring expert at all, but work with pure WC in an unrelated field.
In a word - degloving. It’s super hard, so if it’s sized small, it’s a risk because it won’t come off easily and it can’t really be cut, just hammered and hope it shatters. If it’s loose, it catches on things and degloving is a concern.
Silicone is cheap especially on aliexpress and it can tear easily.
good to know
My grandmother gave me hers, so free. But I ended up getting a wedding band for somewhere in the neighborhood of $1500, made custom to match the engagement ring which was alternating sapphires and diamonds. Lab grown small diamonds, but I think it was 4 of them with 3 sapphires, plus a 18k gold band.
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I spent too much on real diamond before I knew any better. So I was complicit in blood money, and now it's worth 2 percent of what I spent.
Pretty much it.
Like 30 USD for the ring, 300 for the wedding fee. We went out for a nice lunch so another 200 for 8 guests.
A few bottles of cheap champagne too.
No engagement rings, by our values those are kinda corny. Wedding rings we got from a jewelry factory that supplies much of the country, which happens to be local to where we lived at the time. Got them at factory price. Not quite $12, but not much higher. :)
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My wife's engagement ring was a simple opal design that cost like 40 or 50 bucks on Amazon.
~$200 for the actual wedding rings, ordered off Etsy.
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