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what advice was great when you first heard it, but has aged like milk since then? (lemmy.world)

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[-] Speculater@lemmy.world 127 points 3 days ago

Happy wife, happy life. Marriage is about compromise and sometimes I want to be happy too.

[-] MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca 102 points 3 days ago

Happy spouse happy house is a better version. Both people should be happy.

[-] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 37 points 3 days ago

Happy mate. Happy estate.

[-] cyberpunk007@lemmy.ca 9 points 3 days ago

Never heard this version, I like it

[-] bitcrafter@programming.dev 12 points 2 days ago

Sure, but in fairness I think that the intent of that saying is not to say that husbands should not be happy but to counterbalance the trend that used to be more historically prevalent in marriages for the wife to be treated as an appendage of the husband and taken for granted. If you view your partner as co-equal then arguably this saying simply does not apply to you at all.

[-] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago

I have never, ever heard it uttered by anyone except a married man who definitely meant it to mean "Give in to her every demand as written at any cost and you might have a moment of quiet."

[-] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 33 points 3 days ago

Yeah old school relationships are insane. Always upset because of the "old ball and chain".

[-] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 37 points 3 days ago

I went out to drinks with older coworkers earlier in my career, and each time it was just constant wife bitching. Oh she does this, I hate that, old ball and chain. They came to me, I was in a long term relationship (who I'm now married to), and I just didn't have anything to share. Things were going fine. They laughed and said you just wait har har har.

Well, that was 10 years ago now. We're happily married, our marriage is full of compromise and mutual respect. We have tiffs, but never full on screaming matches. I still don't have anything major I'd share at a bar.

Them though, 3 of the 4 of them are now divorced. Maybe spending all of your time at the bar complaining about your wife wasn't the best for your marriage. But honestly too, good. If you hate them, why the hell are you married?!

[-] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 15 points 3 days ago

Maybe staying at home and talking to each other about those complaints would've helped to work them out and compromise. Bitching to your buddies can be a good release, but it doesn't help solve anything.

[-] dumples@midwest.social 3 points 2 days ago

My preferred edit is "Happy Spouse, Happy House"

[-] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 10 points 2 days ago

Never go to bed angry is in here too. You can see why if you also know that nothing good happens after 2AM. Sometimes you just gotta sleep whether you're kinda mad or not.

But I guess they didn't have HIMYM...

[-] weker01@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

HIMYM?

[-] dream_weasel@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 days ago

How I met your mother.

Pretty sure the show counted the phrase about 2AM.

[-] LifeInMultipleChoice@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 days ago

I gave up guessing and looked it up. How I met your mother.
Guessing they say the 2am quote in that show. I don't recall

[-] asdfasdfasdf@lemmy.world 17 points 3 days ago

That was my take from the very beginning. I hate that one.

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