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Disengagement.
If I can physically disengage, walking away from the situation, I'd do it. If not, I'll mentally disengage. Enough times of this, I'll just default to it: not giving a shit because apparently, no one does.
If I must engage in it anyways, maybe I'll return to it once I've calmed down. If I must do it there and then (so, no time to compose myself), I'd do minimum I can get away with.
How does one effectively mentally disengage in a situation, which stretches for a while when you cant physically go away from it?
I can't really explain it, but it is akin to tuning it out. Basically ignoring it as it it were tinnitus.
Of course it can only be done if you can afford not to engage it (or engage in it such that you can fake engaging in it). IDK, it's really hard to explain.