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Obviously I'm talking about two adults, I'm just wondering when it goes from okay to "a bit iffy", either older or younger

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[–] SolidShake@lemmy.world -2 points 1 day ago (4 children)

I don't think a 20 year old should date a 17 year old though

[–] Impound4017@sh.itjust.works 5 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I think the rule breaks down any time before ~21 (always round up). In general, if you’re over 18, don’t date someone under 18. If you’re both under 18 idk but probably don’t exceed a two year age gap.

If you’re 19-20, get fucked I guess.

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

If you’re 19-20, get fucked I guess.

But that's exactly what they want, and it's the only thing on their mind! D:

[–] TribblesBestFriend@startrek.website 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

A 10 year old can only date 12 year old and older. I don’t make the rules

[–] thebustinater@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

But the 12 year old can only date 13 year old and older, so the 10 year old is out of luck...

[–] TempermentalAnomaly@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago

No dating before 14.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The high school to college transition makes things complicated for reasons other than just ages.

[–] PlutoniumAcid@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

America-centric. Other countries split the education path in different sections.

[–] paultimate14@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They could be in a similar phase of life. I was still 17 when I started college and had a full-time job. A 20 year old could still be in high school if they were held back. This is kind of the range where you can start counting months or talking about how different school systems have different cutoff dates that can mess with things.

I would not recommend 20 year olds and 17 year olds date in general. But it's very possible for two people of those ages to date without being creepy or having problems.

[–] SolidShake@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah I meant like legally. Statutory rape and all.

[–] Rivalarrival@lemmy.today 9 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Romeo and Juliet laws are fairly common. 24 states allow a 2 to 5 year age difference. AFAIK, federal law allows up to a 4-year age difference.

The other 26 seem kinda stupid. Two kids can be in the same class and dating since 6th grade, but for 6 months in their senior year, it's rape. How does that make sense?

[–] SolidShake@lemmy.world -1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

There's gotta be some stricter "rules". Because 19 dating 15 would be weeeeiiiiiird. It's always iffy because the older you get. The larger the gap is acceptable. Like 25-10 is gross AF right. But 55-40 isn't a huge deal.

(Saying "25-10 is gross" and getting downvoted for it is concerning on so many levels. You know who you are you fucking weirdo