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[–] Soup@lemmy.world 68 points 2 days ago (7 children)

I remember a post where a guy was like “why does she get all dressed up to go out with her friends but with she just wears sweatpants?” and the “with me” clip had bro in basketball shorts, a t-shirt, and a baseball hat. One of the comments said something along the lines “she’s putting as much effort in as you are.”

Too many of us dudes have such garbo fashion sense they seem to believe that wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women and it’s just sad.

[–] Dreaming_Novaling@lemmy.zip 28 points 2 days ago

Also, are we talking about being at home, or going out on a date with the guy? If she's chilling at home of course she's gonna be in fucking sweatpants. Do you expect her to look like a TikTok influencer 24/7? Hell, even if it was an outing, if you're going to a regular, mom-and-pop diner or some shit, I also wouldn't expect someone to dress mega fancy, especially if you're already with them.

But yeah, don't wear a plain ass T-shirt and shorts to a nice date and expect your partner to always be ready to model for a fashion brand...

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 7 points 2 days ago (5 children)

Well in fairness men's fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie. There really isn't the equivalent of what women get, that's why all the fashion designers make dresses, because men don't get any effort put into their fashion.

What is the male equivalent of dress shopping?

[–] paranoia@feddit.dk 9 points 2 days ago

Well in fairness men's fashion is essentially t-shirt or suit & tie.

T-shirt is fairly versatile but men's fashion is not that limited.

[–] expr@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago

I mean, that's really not true. Just look at the various male fashion advice communities, streetwear culture, etc. There's a huge variety in different styles of shirts, outerwear, layering, footwear, accessories, and pants. Hell, even t-shirts and denim have a huge variety in style and quality.

There's massive cultural pressure for women to be fashionable and wear the "right" clothes, a pressure men by and large don't have to deal with. Companies are one of the primary drivers of this pressure by manipulative marketing practices that that convince many women that they need the latest trends and fashions to be keep up.

All of it is bullshit meant to keep people spending money, ultimately. Fashion should be a form of personal expression and personality and by no means requires purchasing new clothing all of the time.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I totally agree that women get a lot more variety but there’s still all kinds of stuff we can do in between. Button up shirts with nice patterns are a huge way to bridge the gap, and you can tuck them in or not and even just leave them open with a t-shirt underneath. Wearing good glasses is important, and frankly we should just pretend those plain black rectangle ones don’t exist because they’re always the worst option. Head to a place like Zenni and it doesn’t have to be expensive(those expensive glasses are a racket).

I got a pair of black stud earrings a while ago and people were like “goddamn”. I know that’s a little more difficult, but it was a small and not too flashy change that made a big difference. A good haircut is also easy to get since you’re already going to the barber anyway, and I discovered beard brushes a while back which straighten out even very short beards and keep everything looking sharp.

There’s a LOT we can do even though we’re kinda limited in many other ways.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Diverse well fitting shirts and non-cargo pants from other materials than denim. More adventurous men can dive into different kinds of tunics sweaters and such, can have accessories like neckerchieves and scarves, nice bags, footwear. You can play with colors and patterns... Men can have some fun with clothes too.

[–] Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

I know a guy who encountered this problem and answered it by wearing suits every day.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

gonna be honest. i have eclectic (okay weird) but pretty sharp fashion sense. going out with my wife is always an excuse to dress up. i don't understand this "wearing a t-shirt without holes and their “nice shorts” is enough to start complaining about women" but i'm fucking vain

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 14 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Dressing up as a guy is kinda hard, the widely accepted options tend to have much less variety than women's fashion. You pretty much have to get weird to make it a little fun, and that's risky.

I guess that actually makes it easy to dress up, it's just depressingly boring.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

the acceptable shirts that come out of most clothing stores the last decade or two have been so godsdamned boring. i do most of my clothing shopping at thrift stores now and look for stuff that's easily tailored because that's the only place i'll find interesting fabric. well, there and nordstrom off the rack. i saw a jacket there a decade ago that i should've bought that was too fucking expensive and i have regretted not buying it to this day. i should have spent that $700 i have had at least $700 of regret by now.

edit: i don't have a lot of regrets but this is one of them.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 6 points 2 days ago

One of the nicest jackets that I own was manufactured in the 1960s and has had quite the interesting life before I got it.

It's totally impractical since it has the shallowest pockets you've ever seen. It will absolutely not hold a phone.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago

There are a lot of dudes who basically just think that if they meet a bare minimum then they’re owed something. You can see it a lot just walking around and will probably notice it more as the percentage of chain restaurants and parking lots in the area goes up.

You and I might put more effort in but how we are doesn’t change how they are.

[–] AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Now I'm deeply curious about your fashion sense. What's the weirdest item that you love and regularly wear?

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

that depends on your opinion. i have a bright bright bright coral linen blazer i've fallen in love with lately and i wear whenever the weather is cool enough. pair it with a loud enough patterned shirt and it's fantastic.

my bio family jokes that they find ugly stuff on the discount rack and when i put it on it looks good because it matches, but they just don't have the confidence to pull this stuff off.

[–] phar@lemmy.ml 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

What is hilarious is when people come into an interview like a scrub. I understand you spent four hundred dollars on those basketball sneakers. But they're basketball sneakers. You didn't get the job because you obviously make bad decisions.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

If the job isn't representative or dealing with customers, fuck off with fashion sense or pay for the uniform.

[–] phar@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The job is specifically greeting customers. And we do pay for their outfits. And jackets. And rain jackets. And winter jackets. And hats. And umbrellas. And everything else. But we dont dress people for interviews. And we don't hire people who show they have no common sense.

[–] MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip 2 points 2 days ago

See, there it is somewhat understandable.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 15 points 2 days ago (2 children)

And to that end, dressing up nice enough for interview at most places shouldn’t even be that high a bar. Dark jeans and a nice button up, even one with patterns honestly, will probably be enough. After that, though, most jobs pay like shit and treat people worse than that so if they expect me to show up in a suit and jerk them off they can get bent.

[–] phar@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 days ago

I would personally avoid jeans but a polo and khakis would be 100% acceptable. I wouldn't discount someone in dark jeans. I had someone show up in designer ripped jeans. Just no, dude. This is a job interview.

[–] Rooty@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I would also add moccasins or espadrillas (boating shoes).

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Exactly. Even a pair of fully black converse could be subtle enough.

[–] Grass@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 days ago

I actually really like when my so dresses like shit. I don't know why I find it so hot. Then we dress up for a dress code restaurant, come home and wear clothes with holes from parrots chewing the shoulders.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 0 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I'd love to dress better, but at my height and gender expectations, best I can do is a good pair of jeans and a nice t-shirt. Would love to do better 😥

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It might be a little bit 2000s but a collared button down shirt worn over a t-shirt can spruce up the look quite a bit.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

Nice idea, thank you!

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What does that even mean? I’m 6’-5” and only 175-180lbs and I’m not flush with cash but I still get by just fine.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I can't easily find new clothes or shoes as they are not big enough. I can fing but like never what I'd like. Thrift stores? Just forget it. So jeans & t-shirt it is. 6'6 95kilo, maybe where you live there is an abundance of clothes fitting me but here it sure isn't.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I’m in Canada. We’re basically the same height but you wear, what, an XL? And I got size 16 feet, so while I understand the struggle I also know that I can definitely get shoes that work(Steve Madden makes shoes that don’t look at all weird when sized up).

If you’re in Europe I’d be amazed if the Germans or Scandanavians haven’t addressed this issue. If you’re in East Asia well that’s gunna be interesting for sure, and if you’re in Africa I really just don’t have enough info to be of any use.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I'm Swedish, and the authorised height stops at 1m92 (I jest, but that's basically how it works, everything must be 'lagom'). I live in France so that doesn't help of course, but when I go home, I don't get lucky either.

My jeans size is like 34x36 BTW 😁 Or is it 36x34 ...

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Waist goes first for jeans. I’m a ~33”x34”. My height is largely in the torso so jeans are a little easier, but 36” inseam is generally not too hard to find. I have good luck with Levis.

Getting longer pants is straightfoward enough but man I try to find shirts and stuff and it’s just rough. We have a brand in Canada called Eddie Bauer, maybe it’s elsewhere too I have no clue, and they’re awesome for coats and stuff.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 1 points 36 minutes ago

I'm 34x36 then I guess, simpler than when I was 31x36 😬😁

[–] Bennyboybumberchums@lemmy.world -3 points 2 days ago

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