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is this manager scared of me? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by ricesoup@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I know the best way would be to ask her but that would be even more awkward than asking here. For context I'm a man (she obviously a woman).

before leaving the room after having a conversation I give her a handshake, a normal businesslike shake like I do with every other employee, but each time I do that, she looks to the ground, smiles and shakes my hand using no force at all. It's like she lets me take her hand.

To me this means she is scared of me, she smiles and lets me "take" her hand because she doesn't want to look rude. I'm thinking about not shaking hands anymore.

has this ever happened to you?

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[–] borokov@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Stop overthinking. Some people just don't like physical contact. On the other hand, some people (like you maybe ?) really need contact in their social interaction. Diversity is not only about being gay or black 🤪

Instead of handshake, maybe try a bump next time ? It's less intrusive for her, and you still have the same kind of "validation" feeling than with handshake.

[–] Jumbie@lemmy.zip -1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Maaan. Do not fist bump your supervisor, OP!

[–] borokov@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Dude, I bump my n+3 ! If you cannot bump your manager, it's time to look for another job !