As a man that preferred art and books to sports and locketroom talk, finding male friends was difficult, so most of my close friends were women. I say don't worry about trying to make same gender friends, unless you actually want to
I say don’t worry about trying to make same gender friends, unless you actually want to
I'd agree with this but it's hard to explain to a potential romantic partner why you seemingly have no friends of the same gender. It can be a red flag.
A red flag for what though?
one's character. If you don't have friends of a given gender, it implies you somehow can't get along with them and that's not typical.
I would have thought in ' non-binary gender rights time' this would no longer matter
I’d agree with this but it’s hard to explain to a potential romantic partner why you seemingly have no friends of the same gender.
why are people so judgemental about this? especially at this age and in these times. like oh no, a 30-something who doesn't have a bustling social life, how unusual and certainly worthy of scorn and not compassion or understanding. do people actually view their potential partners like this?
I’ve found specifically looking for women’s [hobby] groups helps. I made close friends looking for other lesbians who play d&d for example. A women’s woodworking group is going to have the combination of women who are into woodworking and specifically want to spend time with other women. Women’s [career] groups could also help.
I'm replying to this because I could've written it and I'm going to check back later. Also I guess we can make a Discord for our types?
I think it's more of an age thing than being a woman. The 30s is the age when many people focus on building a family or career. There are simply fewer who have time or interest in socialising and is also difficult to maintain friendship with those who are single, childless or jobless, because interests and priorities aren't the same anymore.
I'm sorry I don't have any advice, I just wanted to say that this is perfectly normal and it probably isn't you doing anything wrong.
I think it’s more of an age thing than being a woman. The 30s is the age when many people focus on building a family or career. There are simply fewer who have time or interest in socialising and is also difficult to maintain friendship with those who are single, childless or jobless, because interests and priorities aren’t the same anymore.
I’m sorry I don’t have any advice, I just wanted to say that this is perfectly normal and it probably isn’t you doing anything wrong.
I wonder why this seems to just be the case for women I meet. The men I've been friends with (since secondary school for example) still find time to message. Sure, it's not long video calls like when we were younger (which is to be expected), but surely someone has a few minutes in a week to ask how the other is doing. Neither the women nor the men I'm referring to have children.
I can't really keep friendships with other men because most of the things they like I find boring as hell. So I always tried to be friends with women.
Jokes on you, everyone on lemmy are males :(. But hopefully that changes eventually! Crosspost questions for females from there to here!
Ask any question and ideally only females answer the question. Males can answer too, but ideally you state that you’re not a female.
Related:
lemmy.ca/c/askmen