The rest of Lemmy has had a meeting and decided that you no longer need to save the world. It was wrong of us to put that burden on you. Stop, rest save yourself first. We would love for you to volunteer to help when you are better.
Your garden looks wonderful 😊
You haven't seen my garden and it's quite barren now that the vegetation period has ended for everything outside greenhouses.
Anyway, you deserve a pic so here is one from earlier this year.
(My phone is from 2013 and full of dust)
That looks like a whole bunch of potential for next season!
I sure hope so, vegetables were fine but we barely got any fruit this year. Trees bloomed early and suffered frostbite.
That’s a good size garden!
My grandma used to have one like that and my best childhood memories are picking vegetables with her and then we’d cook them for dinner
I never got into gardening except the last couple years and it’s very rewarding in the spring when you start seeing things sprout
My parents nor I would take the "stop" very well because I would end up doing stupid shit. See my comment with the cat pic.
Trump isn't worth this. No one is. Get off the internet and go outside or focus on a hobby. Stop doomscrolling.
I have a semestral project to work on and I've been failing to get anything done for weeks. I'm unemployable until I get better meds or something. Instead of staring at a screen fruitlessly all day, I guess I should just accept this failure and embrace your suggestion. Thank you very much.
Trump isn't worth this
He's a symptom of a greater problem. If a criminal incoherent populist can challenge a future-oriented centrist with decent moral standing except for one or two issues, even by popular vote, I don't see much hope for 21st century democracy becoming what it could be globally.
Don't call it a failure. It's a struggle. A challenge you need to overcome. Be kinder to yourself.
I wish I could tell you something that will magically make a Trump presidency seem not so bad. I genuinely do. But at the end of the day you need to keep 2 things in mind.
Take life one day at a time. There's no benefit with overwhelming yourself with what-ifs to this extent.
Take life one day at a time
That sounds good. I've been seeing experts for 6 years and not heard this.
Do a week of digital detox. Seriously, drop it all. No Lemmy, YT, RSS, not even the weather; drop all digital media.
I'm physically disabled and been through stretches like this. I've read all of Dune and most of Asimov's fiction in these stretches. Books are good. Independent thought and perspective is rejuvenating and can break the spiral. Scrolling is addiction, as is most digital media. Sometimes you need to detox for self care.
I stayed off for a day but I need longer, feel terrible today. Book is a great idea.
you will not. none of us will be alright if trump wins again. a million americans died the last time trump was the president, from a purposefully inept and sandbagged global pandemic response. this is not a fucking drill.
this will be my only post to this sub, beyond the reply i already added, you do no one any favors by telling them the actual monster coming to eat them, isn't, and to ignore it
Unless you live in Eastern Europe, I wouldn't expect much fallout from Trump.
It might even turn more people off from populist movements in Europe
Also I agree with the other posters, don't let that orange turd live in your head.
Idk, gay rights in my country are expected to be decided in 1-2 years and I'm pretty sure we will not follow through with gay marriage if America doesn't. Why do I even care so much? I don't even know any openly LGBT person IRL, and just one Ukrainian! Am I too obsessed with Elon facing justice instead of a key government job offer?
Gay marriage is mostly decided in the US, despite Republican bluster and Democrat worry. It is strongly supported by both parties, and while more radical Republicans are in power now, it’s quite unlikely it will change.
The policies at critical danger in the next four years are abortion, trans rights, and immigrant rights.
America legalized gay marriage many years ago.
I'm sorry to hear that.
Unfortunately most of us don't have much power individually. Finding solidarity in our communities I think is one of the most protective things we can do for ourselves, both politically and for our mental health.
I can't really control what state actors due to Elon musk and I don't have much say in the election. I will say that I live in a swing state and I am voting for Kamala if it helps you feel any better lol
Eat something healthy.
Just not eating at all will likely lead to a binge later.
You're right, I mostly ate chocolate today despite having fruit and a lunch pack ready. I can get pretty unhealthy when I'm out of my mind.
Do yourself a favour: put the phone down. Stay away from your computer screen. Do literally anything else - some chores, a hobby, counting the number of people walking by your house, fill pages with drawings of squares, take several really long walks, find a pond and skip some rocks, whatever floats your boat. The point is not trying to accomplish anything, but to shift your attention. If something you've been putting off gets done, that's a nice side effect, but not the point - so don't worry too much about the result.
You have no control over the outcome of the U.S. election whatsoever. It is not worth your health to obsess over something that you can't control that fills you with negative feelings. So block it out - if anything, try to summon some gratitude that you have the option to do that (though it's ok if you find that hard to do).
I know this is much easier said than done. But you've got this. You'll be ok. I'm pulling for ya.
Thanks. I'll be trying to push my psychiatrist to do ADHD tests ASAP so I can get productive before the project's Christmas deadline. Until then, this is pretty much the best advice I could be given. Thank you for your empathy.
No problem my friend. On the project side of things, a couple of thoughts. This is assuming it's a project for school, if it's not either see if any of this can be adapted to your situation, or otherwise discard it without any guilt.
100%, do whatever is in your power to expedite things with your psychiatrist. Ignore my caveat above on this one.
If possible, do one thing a day that moves the needle a little bit. It can be tiny - like, write 2 sentences - but just something where you can say "I did something".
If you need to use a computer for some project tasks, go to campus (or a library) and use theirs. Sometimes being in an environment where folks are doing focused work (or at least pretending to) can help people stay on task a bit better. Turn off wifi and mobile connectivity on your phone, and keep it in your bag.
Set timers for doing project related tasks in increments - 20 minutes, 10 minutes, 5, whatever makes sense for you. Try your best to just do something project related for that increment. If the end product is you wrote a sentence, that is still something.
If you find you're lapsing into doom scrolling instead of project work, give yourself permission to stop ASAP and go do something else (see prior comment). If you're not going to be productive anyway, at least do so in a way that isn't causing you as much distress.
If you need to review sources, print them out over just viewing them online. Go through them with a pen and a highlighter and take physical notes.
[should probably be higher on the list] Set a meeting with your prof and be brutally honest about your situation. Let them know your struggles with the project, and what you are trying to do about it. See if an extension is an option at all. It may not end the way you want, but having that conversation is something you can control (if not the ultimate outcome).
Be gentle with yourself. You're in a hard spot, and you are trying your best while working to get the professional assistance you need. Maybe you do or are doing all of the above, and you don't feel like it's getting the results you need. That's OK. When you get the professional support you need, you can revisit. Prioritize your well-being.
I hope you find at least some of this useful.
Thanks but my discipline is terrible so today I did mostly the same shit as yesterday. I succeeded at trapping a free-roaming cat that's been coming to eat but after half an hour sitting in the cage with it I grew no closer to befriending it, just got bitten. Oh well, at least you get a cat pic.
I sent the "progress" report to my coach and she told me I don't have to bother coming next week, as there is no point when I can't follow her advice.
I replied positively to a course offer at uni that will make this "gap year" at least somewhat productive, so there's that. I still have to type out the email to the psychiatrist before I go to sleep.
The college is impractically far and commuting makes me tired. My parents are at home in the afternoon but they are way too aggressive at trying to get me to work, I am already too tired most of the time and can't focus when they're watching. I tried dad's office but his boss is not happy with my frequent toilet visits and I don't get too productive there either. The problem is: they're right, the only time I'm productive is when there is somebody around but they just wreck my mood when they're behind my back so there is a huge cost: I get 0-10 minutes of productivity for every evening spent crying or pouting. However, still better than what I would be doing alone.
The nearest town has a library but I'm still pretty sure I couldn't end up productive if I used the study room. The work is coding btw and I'm not disciplined enough to disable procrastination webpages; still I would probably end up binging "Unusual articles" or similar collections on Wikipedia. I guess it there is harm to try the library, though.
Thank you for the cat tax, though I'm sorry to hear you got bit.
I completely understand re: campus being too far to be practical, but 100% recommend giving the library a shot. Given that it's coding, the whole 'use an organization's device rather than yours' thing is tricky (unless you can put everything you need on a remote/web-accessible IDE or something - I remember screwing around with something like this but as decidedly not-a-coder, it may not be practical). Still, the library has the whole other humans being around aspect going for it, with the benefit that said humans aren't going to go out of their way to distract or push you. Sometimes people just being there, but doing their own thing, is enough to help folks buckle down a bit. But it might not be, and that's ok - at least you'll know.
If all else fails, pay more attention to my first post and the others like it here than the second one. It's certainly worth trying for progress while waiting on meds, but if it's just not happening focus on well-being. I obviously don't know you well enough to offer more practical advice on trying to get the project done, but definitely think meds will help if your psychiatrist agrees.
Hang in there buddy.
I'm sorry to hear you got bit.
No problem. I'd take a gruesome, mind-wrecking rabies death over Trump any day if it didn't entail so much suffering for everyone around. So yeah, I thoroughly disinfected the wound. The election scar on my soul will stay way past 2029 though, if I love that long.
I found this video to be quite positive. It's titled "Why I'm not worried about the election, so ofc I expected some BS but I've liked him in the past and sure enough, he came up with some surprisingly good thoughts.
Nothing happening in the US will have any immediate impact on Europe. Not even on the US. No matter who wins the election inauguration is still weeks (months?) away.
I still have some 5 decades left in my life (hopefully, if I get through this crisis) and everyone has been convincing me that a second Trump term will have a huge, lasting impact on the entire globalized world. You're telling me it's OK just because the terror would start on January 20 and not tomorrow?
Well, at least it could save you over until next week.
And with all the doomsaying about Trump, we said the same thing about his last term. It was bad, but not as bad as it could have been. A second term won't be good and might test American democracy. But nobody can tell what will really happen. It might be a total dud while all he does is ensuring that he will be richer and pardoned when he's done.
because vladimir putin doesn't read the news? the idiocy in this statement is beyond
What should Putin do? Immediately attack the EU when he can't even handle Ukraine?
I live in Canada, so whatever happens in the States would affect us, but we can't really do anything about it. I would be lying if i say I'm not at least a little bit nervous about the results. But just like many things in life, I try to practice to only worry about things that I have control over, and let whatever I don't have control over be.
You've correctly identified that you're doom scrolling. Like many others have said, it's probably a good idea to try and limit your news consumption, at least for a little while.
Gardening is great - keep at it. I may ask you for help & advice with mine to help take your mind off things.
I won't sugarcoat the fact that things will suck a little if he wins, but we'll prevail and our plants will grow strong and healthy.
There are no guarantees. Life is just like a hold em game. The only thing you can do is make good decisions based on the information available. Sometimes a dumbass with 2-7 off keeps calling your bet when you hold AA and catches two pair on the turn and river. The only thing you can do is not get tilted and keep making smart plays. Variance is a massive asshole. Eventually you will come out ahead.
Don't be worried. Be prepared.
Gardening? Grow herbs and vegetables. You can either consume those things directly, gift them to neighbors, trade them for other things you might need, sell them. A little beekeeping on the side, mainly to help the pollinators, honey as a bonus. Make hardtack (clack, clack).
Learn some bushcrafting skills, even if it's just watching videos on it. Buy some paracord and learn how to tie knots. Get some basic lockpicking tools and figure out how to use them.
I'm not saying turn into a doomsday prepper, but adding some basic survival skills and supplies is both fun and can make you feel just a little bit more secure.
I can't lie to you and say that everything will be okay for everyone. I can't even say that would be the case if Trump loses either, there's still going to be a lot of frustrating fallout as all the world's problems do not get solved immediately on election day.
But I can say it is unlikely that anything will directly happen to you personally as a result of this, especially if you live on the opposite side of the world. Remember that the world's problems are not your problems, and you should not feel like things outside of your control are somehow your burden to shoulder.
Focus on yourself, and just try to make your own life better one day at a time.
Go for a short walk. Leave your phone at home. Don't worry, nothing will happen if you forget your phone at home.
Take in the sights. Look at the trees, the birds, the squirrels. Find a bench or something like that, and just sit for a bit. Force yourself to sit. Give yourself an easy goal, like counting to twenty in your head. Then get up and go home. Repeat this tomorrow too.
Remember, you're European. Your entire continent has its own politics, not to mention your country, your province, your town. All that affects you way more than some orange man building a wall. And you can vote for those things.
Don't worry so much about things you have zero influence on. Focus on what you can influence. Unattainable goals are death.
Don't worry, nothing will happen if you forget your phone at home.
I'm not in a crime-ridden city but a beautiful countryside. I only go walking with my SIMless phone because of offline podcasts and crosswords I'm addicted to. I guess I should go on a longer walk but resist the temptation to actively use the phone, which I carry for GPS logging (not for fitness but OSM).
It wont be. Sadly the entire world would be a better place if everyone white man in the US died the day before yesterday. And I say this as a white guy.
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