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“This isn’t worth getting into an argument over.”
The trick is to realize you're completely wasting your time earlier.
Step 2 is not giving into investment bias.
Comment deleted because I don't want to defend it
comment stuck in drafts
error commenting because I forgot I was banned
comment typed, switched to another tab, forgot to come back and submit
Completely lost myself four paragraphs in
Decided to paste it into notes instead
I usually type out paragraphs, but after re-reading it, I realize I should just delete it.
Mostly I'll just find I'm unable to articulate my thoughts to my satisfaction and give up instead of deliberately self-censoring.
it's not as bad since leaving the other place because the hive mind isn't a singular entity on the fediverse, so I'm much more likely to just hit enter and potentially start an interesting conversation instead of knowing for a fact my opinion will be downvoted to hell or get me banned.
There are so few comments that I would rather read a half-thought-out one than none! :)
You probably already know this, but if you switch around to "hot," "top 6 hours" and top 12 hours," you get a lot more content.
Yeahhhh. Being on Tumblr for years taught me that the most inane thoughts will get twisted into a callout ages after you forgot saying them. I type out random inconsequential posts a lot and then delete them.
4x or so in my case. Same thing, though.
Most of the time it boils down to "I can't be arsed". Stuff like:
- I'd need to rephrase it to still say what I think, without being impolite. I know that I'm an arsehole, but I'd rather not ruin someone else's day if I don't see a reason why.
- I'd be dealing with someone who's clearly irrational and/or disingenuous.
- I realise that I'm taking into my own hands some matter that someone else is better prepared to. For example, explaining a subject that I'm not too certain about.
Do I really want to interact with people today just to be clever? Sometimes yes, often no.
Maybe another 25%. Keeping it short works better.
you have more self control than I do
check my comment history. I'm rude as fuck lol. I own my instance though
On my other accounts I say whatever I want but on my selfhosted one's I try to speak as I would in person.
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"Oh, I have an opinion about this."
"Wait, my opinion has already been covered across a few other comments. No one will care about another echo in the chamber, I'll delete that and just upvote those other comments and move on"
*replies*
*realizes that while writing the comment someone else replied saying roughly the same thing*
*sweats nervously*
this post was submitted on 08 Jan 2025
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