Such thoughts can be very overwhelming, ever present, consuming. Imagine swimming against a strong current. Sometimes it's important to just take a break. Get out of the stream and watch it rush by. Of course you can't stay out forever, there are factors beyond your reach, it pulls you back in. But the best bet to beat the pull of this vortex is to try and create as many of these breaks as possible. Small as they may be. While you rest, consider the advice in this thread. It's benevolent, you know? Consider a dialectic position. For every bad thing that pulls you down, think about a good thing that lifts you up too. Literature can be powerfull too, in that you might discover descriptions, states and emotions in which you find yourself in a way you never could phrase it yourself. It's all about a balance of "being seen", receiving empathy, regaining agency and changing perception.
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This is a discussion to have with professionals in a professional setting. No one here is responsibly equipped to answer this in a chat forum. This obviously includes me.
That being said, I do not think about the future - live your life second-by-second.
Despite what people say, life is not meant to be enjoyed. We live in a time of lawlessness and over-abundance, so people often equate life with enjoying things. At your core, you are a biological package of electrical circuits and tools. When you do something your body deems beneficial, you enjoy it (as in signals reward your brain).
If you want to enjoy, then a general tip is to return to the fundamentals. Eat healthy food, exercise, explore, learn, and talk to people in real life. If this doesn't work, then you need to speak with a professional (probably a therapist) to find what does.
Hating humans is not viable, you simply need to stop that. This is not to say let yourself be abused and runover, but you need to form bonds with people - this is our inescapable nature.
shit sucks
no fucking doubt about it
antianxiety medicine helps but
really you need to find you
nothing else matters.
once you can understand your self, telling others your limits and expectations is just the flow of life that you're expecting
Go burn a Tesla. They'll put you in a place where you don't have to worry about changes for a few years. And it's for a good cause.
I don’t know what to tell you. One of the major reasons I decided not to have children is because the future looks so bleak.
You’ve already given your opinion on therapy. All I can suggest is that you keep trying. I know that’s exhausting, but please hear me out. Finding the right therapist is essential, and can take several attempts. The same goes for the type and dosage of medication. Depression isn’t like other forms of disease. What works for one person may not work for someone else.
What I’ve learned from the various psychiatrists and psychologists I’ve seen is that there’s still a LOT we don’t understand about how the brain works. I don’t think less of them for trying anyway. They’re (mostly) good people trying to do their best.
Well, that turned out to be a lot for a reply that started with “I don’t know what to tell you.” Oh well. I’ll skip the platitudes and simply wish you well.
Either get used to change in the hopes it will become better, or get used to being miserable in my life you have now. By the way, you’re gonna be uncomfortable in One Direction or the other, so I suggest you choose the better one.
If you hate your life now, but are also terrified to change, you’re gonna have to decide which one is worth, and during that discomfort: things staying the same, the way you hate it, or enduring the terror of the unknown, your life, possibly improving.
I don't think you fully got me here, so let me explain it better.
I feel anxious if I have appointment with a doctor for normal test or diagnosis, I feel anxious about having any new thing introduced to my uneventful days, no matter it's significance.
The best treatment for anxiety is to just confront it, feel anxious, and then realize on the other side it was actually fine. Won't make it go away immediately, but it'll decrease over time. Anxiety is a normal human emotion, it just gets a little to intense for some people sometimes
OK, I think I better understand where you’re coming from, but my advice is pretty much the same.
Life is changed. Constant, unrelenting change. How will you get through that and how happy you are throughout your life often depends directly on how well you can handle change in your life.
I suggest, at the very least, trying to get some practice. Resisting change will only ever make you miserable.
"Changes aren't permanent, but change is!"
-Rush
If the origin of the sentiment was Rush Limbaugh, I’ll never stop vomiting.
Please tell me it was Jeffrey Rush or some other rush
This is a quote from Tom Sawyer, by Rush, one of the greatest rock bands of all time and Canada's finest
This is a quote from Tom Sawyer, by Rush…
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You need something with regular progression to look forward to. Honestly? Start working out, and start SMALL. I'm talking just even walking. Real physical and mentally felt change happens early with no equipment even needed. There is no feeling quite like "this... actually got easier." And the progression is infinite. Literally all I've been doing lately is two curl exercises before bed and the difference is astounding, not only in mood but energy. I feel more energy during the day just by making a minimal attempt at night.
Straight to jail
You can try my method: therapy, medication, and counting the days until I die from heart disease.
you could start learning c++and contribute to some open sourced games out there
Welcome to my world, friend. It's not as if I don't have friends because I couldn't put on the societal mask and make them; I just simply hate humans that much. Only people I can stand being around are philosophers. People who take a step back and think about the world from a unburdened point of view, and people who talk about what the solutions might one day be.
Only thing that ended up saving me is my wife and children. I would have clocked out long ago. Find someone that hates humanity with you, and cherish them. Or find someone who loves humanity to balance you.