Honestly, pretty shitty. Given the political climate of my home (US) is exacerbating the problems I already face between untreated ADHD, depression, and who knows what else, I've just been dissociating the days away.
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I'm doing alright despite the boss at work being a dick, and being tired all the time
Thanks for asking
Not great. Addictions are running at full speed now. The political climate here in the US is so fucking depressing.
Can’t really do much other than smoke weed to calm down myself now. I feel you compadre
I am confused.
Better than usual. Which is not saying much, since I've had suicidal thoughts almost every day despite all the therapy and meds. But I did an hour of work today on a project that was due May 2024 (now trying for the 2025 deadline), which is more than most weeks of the past 9 months. I've been keeping myself from new Linux installs and other major time sinks for all that time, hoping I'd find a miracle cure. But nope, looks like I'll have to fight my inattentiveness and depression the hard way. At least I'm motivated to finish the project so I can get my laptop running the way I want.
What's the project?
Bachelor's thesis
Ooh fun. I did mine while I was still in the figuring shit out part of my depression. Managed a C but looking back in it, god damn it was not good, bit embarrassing really.
If it's of any help, I just recently completed my degree that I started 10 years ago. Clinical depression just ruined my education, and it took a lot of time to get over the anxiety of going back to finish it. But, eventually I did get there. If I can do it, you can too.
Am adhd and autistic, so i never had a lot of friends, but i kind of learned to keep going with it.
Right now, i am very tired, but also hopeful because all my essay writing training is starting to show up.
My dreams, such as writing novels and creating an entire video game about my personal universe, seem to be more and more feasible on reality.
Also, my social training allowed me to meet some very nice persons, not in social standarts, but genuinely for me.
So I am as always lonely, tired and silent, but the world seem always to show more and more colours to me, which is nice.
(also maybe just because i stopped drinking the social media crap and the worldnews junk food, but hey, it’s what gives us the most anxiety for no reason, so why bother)
Not well.
Constantly anxious.
Depressed.
Autistic.
Have gender dysphoria at a time of increased hatred. I don’t consider myself trans because I’m not transitioning. I couldn’t bear that attention.
I’m a broke single parent whose only regular human interaction is a 3 year old. I have no friends. I drove 4 hours across the state for a family function where I felt like an outsider because my family are rural maga people. I just feel I don’t belong anywhere
My job and position in life are nothing like I thought they would be at 37.
I’m increasingly dependent on thc vape and alcohol.
During Covid, I picked up the guitar again, having given it up decades ago. I didnt expect to play gigs or anything, I just wanted to use the quarantine opportunity to do something positive, and I chose music, over writing a book, learning a language, etc.
Almost five years later, my guitar playing has gotten pretty good, upper intermediate level, and I am good enough to entertain myself, which is all I ever wanted.
What I hadn't expected was how much of an improvement it would make on my mental health. After being energized by my improving skills, I realized that my mood and self-esteem and confidence were significantly elevated. I am proud of my progress, even if nobody else hears it.
I also realized that I think I've been operating under a low-grade depression for a long time, perhaps my entire life. I've never addressed it because I thought that was just what life felt like. Once I had a closer look at how much better I could feel, i realized that I haven't felt "right" for a long time, maybe never. I'm still not sure I know what "right" really feels like.
Now that America has officially gone to Hell, I'm extremely worried about the future (I have a history degree, and am very knowledgeable about politics and history, and know where all of this is leading), but daily, sometimes hourly, doses of music are helping me cope.
I did the same with guitar. Stopped playing nearly 20 years ago and picked up again during Covid. Probably one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. It gives me an outlet I didn’t have before, and I’ve put so much into it with practice and lessons that I’m better than I’d ever have thought I’d be.
Like you, I know enough to entertain myself and that’s perfect. Sometimes I’ll just pick it up and play along with new songs I hear and it still surprises me when I can do that well.
I've heard that there was a big guitar boom during Covid, but I'll bet at least 75% moved on. We're the survivors, and all the better for it. In a couple years, there will probably be a big used market of barely used Covid guitars.
I just wish Lemmy had one single decent guitar forum. Reddit had a bunch, and I was really active in them, but alas, now that they've gone MAGA and purged any dissenters, all I can do is lurk, which is frustrating.
We need to revive the sleepy guitar forums on Lemmy.
I'm going great outside of one thing. I miss my soulmate. It's been over 2 years. My heart is still empty. I'm dating again but I feel hollow.
Best wishes. You are still grieving. That doesn't mean you shouldn't date at all, it just means you need to allow yourself to continue grieving even while you move forward with your life. You deserve happiness.
It's unduly long and complex but made worse that we are still friends and were it not for a specific situation we may still be together. Took me 40 years to find my soulmate only to have them taken away because life told us it was not time and here I am now stuck with not being able to move forward because why would I be able to love another when the one of my dreams is still there within arm's reach.
It sucks. I'm at least blessed with 3 kids from a previous marriage which give me joy and I have a career I love. I also have many around me who I love and I feel they love me back. It's just that final puzzle piece. I know where it is. I want to complete my puzzle but I can't because it's not possible right now.
Sigh.
I've been working in my mental for a while and i can fele the improvements.
Isn't it wonderful when you start go get those first glimmers that things are getting better?
I’m gonna be honest and say I’m doing great man. For some weird reason, I always am.
I see from the rest here that I should probably not take that for granted.
Wish everone an epic Sunday!
I just heard people applaud a fucking sunset. I'm circling the drain.
In the dumpster, six days ago i was involved in a pretty severe work related accident which landed me in the hospital. Crushed right leg plus three broken ribs and a collapsed lung. So my mental health is rough right now.
Take that company for everything you can dude. If they are like 99% of companies they will try to limit things you are entitled to. Might even want to talk to a lawyer.
My union (Dansk Metal) is taking the case and theyll drag everyone through hell and back, so no worry. Dansk Metal is one of the most powerful unions in Denmark and will stop at nothing.
Shit, that sucks. What’s the outlook for the leg?
The leg is pretty good, but it will take a long fucking time for the ribs to cure.
Really? They usually heal pretty fast, you must have injured them badly.
I crack a rib or two about once a decade, just to remind myself I'm still alive. Had my break for the 2020s a few weeks ago, and I'm still feeling it with every deep breath or cough. It'll go away soon, it always does.
Good luck, brother. Get the nastiest pitbull lawyer you can find, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity to fuck over an evil insurance company, which is a very satisfying feeling, trust me.
Awesome, thanks. How are you?
Thanks for asking! I'm good today just got up and I'm gonna train in an hour. Exercise days are always good days!
They definitely are, I'm glad you got to get some workout done. Your reply also reminded me to get off my own ass and give some love to my core, so, thank you for that.
Haha you're welcome 😊
A bit hopeless but trying to keep it together in spite of all the socio-political problems.
I just wrote about it in a lengthy post, but music has been helping me cope. Find a hobby that can occupy your mind when you start ruminating about concentration camps.
I think that's all we can do right now
Not great.
Last night my house flooded and I'm still cleaning up water and nasty shit. Everything smells like piss.
It triggered a fight over the fact that I still don't have a full time job despite months of looking, and we are stuck in this place until I find something better than 3rd party labor.
My vehicle is leaking gasoline while running and the shocks are fucked but I can't afford to fix it. My wife's vehicle needs transmission work.
Also... gestures wildly around the US
Depression is a bitch and I don't have insurance to go to a therapist or get my broken tooth fixed.
So yeah. Not great.
Damn dude, life is kicking you while you're down, I'm sorry. Keep your head held high whenever you can.
Not great. My depression and anxiety have left me bedridden in the last few days. I feel worthless and like the whole world either doesn't care or despises me. I don't know which is worse.
I also suffer from dissociation and feel like I don't know who I am as a person, it's like I am being pulled in different directions, and it's a real struggle.
Been there. I know it's easy to say, but have you sought medical help? Medication did wonders for me.
I hope you come out of it soon, because I know what that pit feels like. hugs
Thanks! I have gotten medication and no longer suffer from daily panic attacks. I got diagnosed with a bunch of stuff a year ago, including AvPD, which means that I have severe social anxiety.
So far, it feels like the only response I have gotten from the doctors has been, "Tough luck; that's your life now."
I am trying my best to come out of it, but it's difficult.
That’s bullshit! Keep looking for better doctors! I had the same trouble getting the runaround until I found one who gave a shit.
Don’t give up!
I hear you Tropper. We're here, lean on us
Can‘t recover from the death of my cat in october. It totally devastated me.
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Discovered my young daughter is self harming so really not great at the moment.
When I was 13, my parents discovered that my younger sister was self harming and even wrote a suicide note (and that she might be closetedly lesbian). All they did was yell at her, berate her, force her to cut up the note and blame social media. Somehow at that age I was more mature than two adults who decided to fucking have children. Though thats the average in arabia I guess..
Please don't be mad at her, instead help and show that you love and care for her.
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Awful, depressed, worthless, financially ruined. Currently sitting on my friends couch after sleeping here because my wife and I had the worst fight we ever had over the past 2 days, and I don't we will recover as we both decided it's probably best to just part ways but not sure how to make that work yet due to kids and schedules. This is a fun weekend...
I lost the person I felt was my soulmate about 8 years ago to mental illness after she fell down the conspiracy theory well, and eventually changed from a happy healthy empathetic liberal to a MAGA type person in just a couple years. It was, in some ways, worse than losing them to death.
But 8 years (and a lot of therapy) later I feel like life is bright, and I look forward to each day now. I don't mean to say "Hey just wait the better part of a decade and you'll feel great", just that we are resilient and even though things feel terrible for you right now, no matter which way it goes you will eventually feel good again. Stay strong.
And let me give you some unsolicited advice in case you do end up splitting. Try not to be mean or vindictive to your future ex-partner during the process. Not for their sake (they will be out of your life soon), but yours. I regret and am ashamed of things I said and did during my divorce.
Jesus dude, sorry to hear that. Sincerely.
I know it doesn't feel like it now, but things will get better. It will take time, and I know you've heard that before, but I promise you it's true. It will take longer than you think, but each day will get a little easier than the next. Stay the course, and know that it will get better.
It's OK to feel helpless, and like your whole life is over, but I promise you it's not. And it's also OK to feel suicidal, that's normal unfortunately. Please reach out to someone to talk to, a friend, a counselor, or hell, call 988 for the hotline to talk to someone about it. It helps.
You will get through this, your kids will still love you as long as you prioritize their well being and spend time with them whenever you can. The marriage collapsing is not your fault, it always takes 2 and your spouse is just as responsible.
It's going to take time to figure all this out. Like real time, on the scale of years. Humans are stronger than we think to recover from things like this, it just takes time.
Actually very awesome today. Going to a protest with a new friend. Exciting!
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