Finally, someone that accepts me.
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Antisocial is like killing stray cats and cutting off their heads and putting them in your sock drawer. "Weird people" are Interesting to those who don't smell their own brand. The infrastructure and the culture makes it hard for people to connect. You might have issues but other people are stupid. Two things can be right at the sametime. The world is on fire. Who is to judge really. It not like the collective contributions have led to anything constructive in the dum dum world of the lowest common denominator. https://youtu.be/MEL06Crmw8g
yes, but that is part of the problem
I'm an awkward motherfucker. Idk man I would have to try it out
I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We'd code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.
We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
I've never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.
We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.
You've revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.
i would be afraid that i would murder me
Yes, but I wouldn't want to spend too much time because I'm very annoying.
Outside like 4 people that i talk to, i find myself repulsive, but i'm working on it. I don't think i'd hang out with myself at all
I would hang out with me. I would play boardgames and learn about obscure subjects that I am interested in.
I would have trouble coordinating schedules with myself.
Hell yes, I'm my best friend.
I could, yeah. I would make me a delicious meal and listen to some music. I don't think I would necessarily want me at a party, I like to host but not the best guest.
I Hang out with myself all the time. It's fine.
Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.
You mean after the sex?
I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions
I would love to hangout with myself. I'm quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.
I don't have any friends because I'm disappointed in people my own age. I'd hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they're all dead soooo....
Probably not. I don't really want to be around people who act like me. I've done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I'm doing a good enough job.
On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there
If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn't that a win?
I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn't who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.
But I guess it depends on what you're editing.
Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago
The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation
That seems positive. But it's your call.
For me, "conforming" means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don't feel like I'm denying myself, I feel like I'm being more considerate.
I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one's sexuality or something like that.
It's nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in
Masking is exhausting
people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project
The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.
Yeah, I'd hang myself.
...
Oh "hang out".
No.
Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.
Agreed! We both like the same shows.. never fighting about what to have for dinner.. it's great
Oh yeah for sure. I'd have sex with myself too
One-on-one? Sure, I'm hilarious.
In a group? No. I'm an attention hog, I don't need the competition.
Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.
It would be on sight.
Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I'm super friendly and fun and loving.
And humble!
I have met a person nearly exactly like me, and they make a great friend
So yes, I'd love to hang out with me, at least I'll finally have someone that doesn't keep deliberately misunderstanding my words to have an excuse to harass me
I would have an orgy with myself if I had a cloning machine.
I would try out for RLCS with my 3-me-team in Rocket League.
I would never wonder where my team mates are in The Finals, because now they are also me.
Lmao I was thinking I would duo queue RL with myself
Yeah. I would. I've been asking myself that for a long time and I've tried to become someone I would get along with.
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I have difficulty expressing myself around unfamiliar people. I would hang out with myself because I know myself very well. If I did not know the other me and she did not know me, then we'd probably both assume that the other thinks we're trash and would not hang out. But if we did then we'd enjoy it.
No. Spending time around people different from myself offers me different perspectives, interesting conversations etc.
Hanging out with someone exactly the same would be like living in an echo chamber with a yes man.
I'd never invite myself because I'd be lost in something at home, so I'd never meet me.
nah. that bitch depressing asf
hangout
That's a noun. You want "hang out" with a space. It's the difference between asking "what's up, Chuck" and "what's upchuck?" Supdog is the exception.
Wait, what's Supdog?
I would hang out with myself, but I feel like it would be a very quiet meeting because we both would just be doing our own thing because unless someone else is spearheading the conversation or as a topic that I'm passionate about, I generally stick to myself anyway.
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