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Just came across this question on reddit and tbh....i don't know

People have always told me(including my parents) that i am very antisocial, i don't know how to speak, i don't smile often, i'm shy, i look very judgemental or i'm just too egotistic....so i don't know if i'm actually someone worth hanging out with

And no i didn't make all these things up i have heard it all my life from my parents, teachers, friends etc.

I don't know if its just my luck or something about my looks or the way i speak but people don't really hold back against me

So what about y'all?

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[–] Jakeroxs@sh.itjust.works 3 points 19 hours ago

Lmao all the people in the thread saying they'd have sex with themselves.

[–] HEXN3T@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 22 hours ago

Finally, someone that accepts me.

[–] unicornBro@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I would hang out with myself and get a lot done. We'd code an app, make a podcast for antisocial people, and plant trees.

We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

I've never been good at socializing and it just makes me exhausted.

[–] pinball_wizard@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

We'd agree to use the same encrypted messenger.

You've revealed the real reason we need cloning technology. It would be glorious.

[–] andybytes@programming.dev 3 points 1 day ago

Antisocial is like killing stray cats and cutting off their heads and putting them in your sock drawer. "Weird people" are Interesting to those who don't smell their own brand. The infrastructure and the culture makes it hard for people to connect. You might have issues but other people are stupid. Two things can be right at the sametime. The world is on fire. Who is to judge really. It not like the collective contributions have led to anything constructive in the dum dum world of the lowest common denominator. https://youtu.be/MEL06Crmw8g

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

I'm an awkward motherfucker. Idk man I would have to try it out

[–] reksas@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 day ago

yes, but that is part of the problem

[–] pan0wski@infosec.pub 3 points 1 day ago

Yes, but I wouldn't want to spend too much time because I'm very annoying.

[–] Triasha@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I would hang out with me. I would play boardgames and learn about obscure subjects that I am interested in.

I would have trouble coordinating schedules with myself.

[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago

I Hang out with myself all the time. It's fine.

[–] Rin@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

Outside like 4 people that i talk to, i find myself repulsive, but i'm working on it. I don't think i'd hang out with myself at all

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 52 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I would date, fuck, marry & kill myself

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 10 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I don't see how "kill" could be in any other place than last.

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[–] Opinionhaver@feddit.uk 50 points 2 days ago

Absolutely. In-fact, me is who I most often hang with.

[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 day ago

i would be afraid that i would murder me

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

Hell yes, I'm my best friend.

[–] Stillwater@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 days ago

You mean after the sex?

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago

I could, yeah. I would make me a delicious meal and listen to some music. I don't think I would necessarily want me at a party, I like to host but not the best guest.

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Probably not. I don't really want to be around people who act like me. I've done a decent job of reigning in my most asocial behaviours, but they still get through.

On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project, so I think I'm doing a good enough job.

[–] MaggiWuerze@feddit.org 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

On the flip side, other people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project

I know that feeling too well. I honestly can no longer tell when I have started doing that or how much of it was originally there

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If the new you is closer to the person you want to be, isn't that a win?

I feel like I do this enough that it becomes a comfortable habit. Occasionally, I still want to interrupt people to tell them how wrong they are, or how right I am, or just become the centre of attention. But that isn't who I want to be. And that urge seems to diminish as I learn to listen and ask questions, and then that becomes more of a habit.

But I guess it depends on what you're editing.

[–] MaggiWuerze@feddit.org 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, never thought if it like that. I always kinda felt like I lost something, that I conformed rather than maybe just bettering myself.

The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation than how I behaved maybe ten years ago

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The version I present nowadays usually is better socially adapted and better able to integrate itself into a conversation

That seems positive. But it's your call.

For me, "conforming" means listening, considering my audience, controlling interjections, and asking people about stuff. I don't feel like I'm denying myself, I feel like I'm being more considerate.

I can see how other kinds of conformance could be awful. Denying one's sexuality or something like that.

[–] MaggiWuerze@feddit.org 2 points 1 day ago

It's nothing that drastic, maybe I just find it hard to differentiate between natural change over time and stuff I pretended to have changed to better fit in

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

people seem to like the version of myself that I currently project

The more times I read this, the deeper it gets.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Masking is exhausting

[–] thisisdee@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

I wouldn’t initiate or invite, but if I just happen to be in the same room with myself it would be fine. It would be mostly quiet and we do our own thing, or the occasional silly philosophical or metaphorical discussions but probably nothing real or deep. Or maybe it’ll be a free therapy session, having 2 brains figure out my emotions

[–] quediuspayu@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Probably yes, I talk to myself all the time and my sense of humour happens to be pretty similar to mine. At the very least is worth a try.

[–] 200ok@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Agreed! We both like the same shows.. never fighting about what to have for dinner.. it's great

[–] LouNeko@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago

Yeah, I'd hang myself.

...

Oh "hang out".
No.

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

I would love to hangout with myself. I'm quiet, calm, and introspective IRL.

I don't have any friends because I'm disappointed in people my own age. I'd hang out with people 20-30 years older than me, but they're all dead soooo....

[–] twice_hatch@midwest.social 8 points 2 days ago

Oh yeah for sure. I'd have sex with myself too

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

One-on-one? Sure, I'm hilarious.

In a group? No. I'm an attention hog, I don't need the competition.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Maybe use the opportunity to audit your behavior. Give others some room and shit. Could be a thing.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yes indeed. Not to be braggy but I'm super friendly and fun and loving.

[–] IronKrill@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago

And humble!

[–] Angry_Autist@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

I have met a person nearly exactly like me, and they make a great friend

So yes, I'd love to hang out with me, at least I'll finally have someone that doesn't keep deliberately misunderstanding my words to have an excuse to harass me

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I would have an orgy with myself if I had a cloning machine.

I would try out for RLCS with my 3-me-team in Rocket League.

I would never wonder where my team mates are in The Finals, because now they are also me.

[–] Tigrafale@programming.dev 2 points 2 days ago

Lmao I was thinking I would duo queue RL with myself

[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Yeah. I would. I've been asking myself that for a long time and I've tried to become someone I would get along with.

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[–] erin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago

It would be on sight.

[–] LilB0kChoy@midwest.social 5 points 2 days ago

No. Spending time around people different from myself offers me different perspectives, interesting conversations etc.

Hanging out with someone exactly the same would be like living in an echo chamber with a yes man.

[–] goofystench@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

nah. that bitch depressing asf

[–] Pika@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago

I would hang out with myself, but I feel like it would be a very quiet meeting because we both would just be doing our own thing because unless someone else is spearheading the conversation or as a topic that I'm passionate about, I generally stick to myself anyway.

[–] piskertariot@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

No. I get introduced to people who are "like me" and I don't like them off the hop.

I recently hung out with my own father, and when he would say words that were in my head, they sounded awful.

People like me. I have friends. I like my friends. But I do question their judgement being friends with me.

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[–] Sunsofold 2 points 2 days ago

I'd never invite myself because I'd be lost in something at home, so I'd never meet me.

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