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Being able to see through fake people's masks. Like, people who appear nice and friendly on the surface, but are narcissistic snakes who will destroy you to benefit themselves. The people who everyone will swear "oh, they aren't like that."
It's so obvious to my wife and I, possibly because we're on the spectrum, but no one else sees it until one of us lays out all the supporting evidence that they are in fact like that.
It's the dead eyes. Every photo of Mr. Beast has them.
I grew ip with a narcissistic mother and I can spot those people, too. Sometimes others don't believe me someone is bad news until month later when they get screwed by that person. I'm always baffled how people fall for the obviously fake niceness.
Computers just work around me. Steady the software and programs. I’m not in the tech or it field. I’m in retail management.
The amount of times people call me over only to say “well now it’s working but before it took me to some other screen”
“Glad I could help”
Basic hygiene, sadly
I read comments and someone said "math".
Now I remember that I have a this 9x9 times table in my brain lol
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chinese_multiplication_table#The_Nine-nine_song_text_in_Chinese
Its like the PEMDAS thing, but its an entire multiplication table. I can recall the product of any [1 digit x 1 digit] within like 2 seconds. When I came to the US right after learning the 9x9, I found out my entire class has trouble doing the times table, and they were still learning it when I already had it memorized. They took longer than me to do multiplication. The teacher asked some kid a random [1 digit x 1 digit] and the kid just like sat in silence, I'm like: I KNOW THE ANSWER. I guess it makes sense... the "gaokao" there is a nightmare, overworking kids and rote memorization becomes norm in China. Depression also becomes norm and suicide rates go through the roof. I might've killed myself by now had I still be there.
Explaining difficult technical concepts to laypeople. Just gotta find the correct analogy.
If you can't explain it simply, you don't know it well enough.
That's one of my favorite sayings.
The problem is that people who are subject matter experts in a field tend to over estimate the amount of knowledge a layperson has about their field.
What about something that everyone else thinks is easy but it's difficult for me?
Whistling. I'm fucking 35.
it's genetic. some people just don't have the right mouth shape to whistle easily. just like you might not be build for distance running or power lifting. we all have different dispositions. i'm super flexible and i'm in my 40s. often way more flexible than kids. i've always been that way.
Once I took this giant thc gummy and learned how to whistle quite loud. Went to sleep, woke up and can't do it anymore 😭
It's funny you say that. When I was a child, I could whistle for one day. It just... Worked all of the sudden. But, like you, I slept and then could never do it again.
My younger brother, who taught himself how to play guitar, was amazed that I can whistle in tune.
Talking to strangers. I'm always the person my introverted friends push to the front if the group has to say something. Ohh, and phone calls! I'm the designated "Can you call them please?" person.
Talking to strangers. I’m always the person my introverted friends push to the front if the group has to say something. Ohh, and phone calls! I’m the designated “Can you call them please?” person.
tell your friends no.
Embracing the chaos.
Not everything works out, not everything goes to plan. Routines will be disrupted.
Being happy by myself.
I can do an oil & filter(s) change and or a brake job on most normal cars pretty easy. Many people I know would have trouble with these.
Spatial awareness.
I was in gymnastics as a kid, so built up a strong sense of balance and where my arms and legs are in relation to the stuff around me.
Before every 3rd annual review I set out getting competitive wages from competitors to bring to my review for my current employer to match or else I accept the competing offer and my current employer can use my annual review as my 2 week notice.
Has worked 5 out of 5 times accross 3 different companies over my 20 year work span.
Do you go through the whole interview process or do you just reach out to competitors and ask what they'd pay for someone with your resume?
I'm really good at finding flaws in things. It's not that I'm trying, I guess I just use things differently. A colleague of mine told me I should be a tester for product development to help find the problems when I asked him why some software worked the way it did. He just said, "I don't do it that way."
Consequently, I'm excellent at writing manuals because I always write them in such a way that no one will make the mistakes I did. The real bummer is I HATE WRITING MANUALS.
I am this way. People think i’m being negative, but i don’t mean to be. Problems just jump out at me. Luckily, I found a job where this tendency is valuable.
People who write good documentation never know how much they are appreciated.
Fixing things. Repair. Assembly. Construction. Diagnosis. It always surprises me how many people are incapable of understanding how something works or what needs done to repair it.
From engines to furnaces to plumbing, computers, electronics, whatever, I do it all myself. And it's not even remotely connected to me career. Repairmen hate me!
I have a good imagination. After meeting people with aphantasia it seems I have an exceptional ability to call to mind sights, smells, sensations, sounds, and simulate the interactions they would have entirely in my mind. I can imagine a different set of curtains on the wall and tell you if it would clash with your paint, and I can taste a spoonful of a soup and go through a mental library of tastes and combine it with more salt, onion, wine etc and make a suggestion based on what "tasted" the best. I thought everyone could do it but some people don't have a "mind's eye" at all. Some people only can see in their imaginations, not smell or taste or hear etc.
Not engaging with other humans. Whether in person or online, I simply don't feel like talking to people is necessary.
Will I do it? Sure. It's fine. But the difference is that I can go weeks without speaking to someone else - and frequently do since I'm disabled and a bit of a shut-in. However, it seems to really bother people to not have others with which to speak. I've never understood this.
Not judging other people. Partly, I'm just quite easy going, partly I've had enough personal history of making mistakes to understand that people often have others reasons for their actions. But mostly I just don't see the point in wasting headspace caring about someone's appearance, opinion or behaviour.
But I feel like I'm constantly hearing people bitching, moaning and picking at other people. There are situations where you need to take a decision about something (particularly if you're in a position of responsibility or authority) but most of the time there seems very little point in being judgemental about someone.
cutting off toxic people
Getting up when the alarm rings
Not touching my savings
Paraller/reverse parking
Finding joy in mundane little things
Writing with my left hand.
Designated Southpaw.
I am pretty shit at writing with my left hand, but I am even worse at writing with my right hand. I know at school once I had a teacher that made me write with my right hand for a while and it was also terrible but also uncomfortable and incredibly slow.
I get hit and screamed at a lot…just as a part of my job, and it doesn’t seem to phase me other than the mild inconveniences of injury. I’m sure my brain is a bit wonky. I do take summers off, and I get so bored.
Answering completely random questions without any context and/or reason.
