Srs recovery. My back aches from laying on it all the time. Mouth tastes bad. Gas churning in my guts but not coming out. It adds to the ache. Breathing hurts. Both too warm and too cold at the same time thanks to the ice pack in my crotch. Time is passing very slowly
Painkiller burns my veins
Congratulations! Recovery is brutal, but it feels so much better after you're all healed.
Things I've found out this week:
For the eyeliner, wipe your eyes with a towel to remove excess oil. If you're trying to apply it to your waterline then idk, but you're not really meant to do that anyway as it can clog up ducts which then requires clearing by a doctor
Thanks, I'll try that! My eyes are definitely very oily.
The other problem you might have with oily eyes is creasing, basically as your open eyelid folds up, the eyeliner can collect in the creases.
I clean my eyes and use a very light moisturiser first, then towel to remove any excess. That usually saves most of it, but a little finishing powder or even just a neutral eye shadow will help prevent it too
I (mtf) bought a couple of summer dresses online which is a huge step because I haven't allowed myself this kind of femininity yet, and now that they arrived I feel awesome instead of shameful!
Now I just need to figure out if I actually like them and how well they fit, I'm kinda funny sized in a way most fem clothes are not intended...
Yus! Buy all the dresses!
Its really hard to find a dress that is sized and proportioned for our bodies. For some reason clothing companies are positively allergic to making cute "plus sized" clothing. Personally I go for dresses with straps rather than sleeves, the others just make me dysphoric.
I'm having an easier time staying sane. Guess I'm healing :D
I think I am slowly starting to develop a transphobe alert. It's just a matter of trusting your feelings. I'm still respectful in those situations, but I am tired of being caught by surprise by rude behavior.
I've (MtF) been doing pretty good lately. I recently came out to work and I'm about to get a new badge soon. I'm basically full time fem now.
The only ones I haven't come out to yet are like outside family members such as my aunts and grandma and cousins. I currently have a supportive cousin but we barely talk due to life and stuff. And I'm pretty sure my aunts are gonna flip out so that'll be bad. Grandma might be supportive. And I have at least one other cousin in the LGBTQ community. My parents are not supportive but my Dad still at least wants to talk to me and stuff so that's nice I guess. So I guess its a bit of a mix in that regard...
In addition, HRT is doing its thing and I like the progress I've been making. Although atm, idk if its the progesterone... but at night i get really dizzy and tired sometimes... Thankfully I'm usually at home by the time I take my meds so, I just lay down and fall asleep. And I'm usually better in the morning.
This Wednesday I'll be going to a hair salon to get my hair trimmed a bit, but not too much. I'm trying to grow it out. And then later I plan on making another appointment to get my hair dyed. Probably gonna do red highlights of some kind (I currently have Brown hair).
And then I'm also going to Otakon on Aug 2nd so that'll be fun!
So yee! Overall pretty good ;-) <3
Congrats on coming out at work! I'm a little ashamed to admit my work is the one place I've been too afraid to come out (I work with clients and you never know how much of a shitbag they can be).
I hope things get better for you sweetie. I know it's hard. Try to take things one step at a time.
I'm existing! I'm enjoying gaming again (haven't been able to dive in for a while, just couldn't get my brain to sit and enjoy it), plenty of good anime coming out this year that I've been enjoying.
Work is work-y. It puts commands into the shell and then it gets the pay again.
General trans community.
Rules:
Follow all blahaj.zone rules
All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.
Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.
Resources:
Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.
Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/
The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en
StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/
Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/
[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map
[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination
[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/
[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/
[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/
[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org
*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on