Remain alive, last 5 years were touch and go.
this post was submitted on 03 Aug 2025
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Survive or even escape the collapse of my democracy.
As a Canadian, I also hope to survive the collapse of your democracy and the inevitable annexation of mine.
Good news: I have a solution to the problem
Bad news: it’s going to require giant fans, massive controlled fires, and all of the dank bud in Canada
Survive WW3, you mean?
Empty the garage.
If you're going to dream, might as well go big.
It's a pretty big garage to be fair.
Really, I just want to figure out a way to make a stable, livable income without having to become a corporate wage slave again. The corporate wage slave part is negotiable.
Get a job
Move somewhere far away with my partner
Start T
Go low contact with my family
Be happy
Make friends
Add to my tattoo sleeve
Do you have an HR fetish or something?
That was incredibly inappropriate to say, who is your lemming manager? We will be discussing your behavior and next steps
Take it up with the Lemmy union rep, pal
Get my last two kids through school and out of the house alive. Currently that goal is in jeopardy.
I hope to be on my own in a city I enjoy with a stable income.
Graduate with a degree in radiology technology in 3 years when I'm 31 and wipe my 20s from my memory as if they never happened. If anyone asks I'll lie and say I had some fancy lucrative stereotypical corporate desk job like everyone else does the millisecond they turn 22, after having worked like 10 different fast food and retail jobs before even graduating high school and slumming it up with multiple roommates throughout college because obviously everyone does that. I'm not nor have I ever been some antisocial loser or anything haha. Maybe embellish a little by saying I worked from home during the pandemic to really fool them into thinking I'm a normie.
I'll also lie and say I definitely moved out before my 30s, and that I've totally been in a relationship before because everyone else feels the need to be in one at all times and yap about it constantly starting in middle school. "I never tried multiple paths in life that didn't work out, what are you talking about?" I had a very successful white collar career at CorpoCorp incorporated corporation before getting bored with the 6 figure salary and stability and lackadaisically deciding I wanted to make a change and do something more hands on. I've definitely never felt trapped and like the world had it's boot on my neck for years and years and years. No, I've always had, like, a fuck ton of agency and choices without being driven by absolute deprivation and desperation, y'know like most people. "I was never a failure actually, not even once, not even for a minute, but you don't seem to be doing so hot yourself".
And throughout all of this I had a very active social life of course. Casually mention how I've had so many crazy adventures and went to so many legendary parties with my gigantic circle of super successful friends and refuse to provide any specifics. Then live in a campervan and fanatically invest all of my earnings into dividend stocks until I can completely opt out of this ridiculous fucking rotten-to-the-core pyramid scheme "society" and flex on all the normies who once looked down on me and treated me like shit still working their 9-5s and paying a mortgage, dealing with their whiny stupid misbehaving brats and never having the time or energy to do anything but survive while I pretend my 40s are my 20s and travel the world with fuck you money. Winning.
Move to the country.
Eat me a lot of peaches.
But do they come from a can?
They were put there by a man.
In a factory downtown
Eating less and exercising more some fat to get down to my healthy weight. While that is commonly called losing weight, I want to put some muscle on so really the focus is on losing fat.
The goal is to have more energy and less issues with getting sweaty and tired in the heat, and have less dead weight getting in the way and wearing me out faster.
I would love to learn to not worry, stress and ruminate about every little thing ever
Happiness and inner peace
Survive.
Read about 200 books.
Lose weight and improve my social life.
PPL-A
Lol I've always wanted to get a pilots license to replace my commercial air travel, but damn is it expensive and even more expensive to fly anywhere and maintain the plane lmao
Yup. I started taking lessons, but then I needed a new bathroom, and after that was paid down I needed a new car, so I had to put it on hold. Hopefully I'll get to pick it up again next year.
Total World Domination
~In~ ~my~ ~Civ~ ~Game~
Have more memorable new experiences, advance in my career, get a bit more muscle definition, and buy a place of my own that I can gradually customize into something I’m happy to come home to :)
Not be in prison
Marriage, homeownership, baby. No big deal.
Oh, you can get that done in a weekend. Easy! (The baby making part)
What kind of person has a baby in the late 2020s.
I'm choosing to believe they're just really jazzed about the first two items on the list, baby!
I've always wondered how bad things have to get before people say "no thanks, I'm good."
I know the answer is different for everyone, so I guess I would phrase it by percentiles, e.g. when would 75% opt out.
I think you're making unacknowledged assumptions in your question that may cause it to have no answer. The most affluent people often have very low birth rates. The most challenged people often have very high birth rates. There may not be a point "so bad" that people don't reproduce.
People don't reproduce for rational reasons. They are responding to a drive and have no insight into what informs that drive except by inference. But I still think there is a moral dimension to human reproduction and responding to a drive does not make it moot.
People don’t reproduce for rational reasons
Some people clearly do reproduce (or more directly: not reproduce) due to rational reasons, as demonstrated by people opting out. The most commonly cited reason is finances, but I've also seen environmental concerns or societal factors related to gender (e.g. with 4B).
Solid point though. The real question might very well be: what percentage of the population is willing to forgo reproduction due to adverse external conditions vs what percentage will continue even under extreme hardship?
Citizenship so I get a more powerful passport.