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Male moans, it's why when I do watch porn I watch it muted, don't have this issue with doujins and fics.
Males suck at moaning, they just do.
Just the fakeness of it
This. Anything that looks like pro porn actors, high quality expensive filming equipment, "scenes", etc -- all that is instant limp-dick.
The best is when a totally amateur person/couple/group have hi-rez, hi-quality 60 FPS cam and are naturally exhibitionists and sexual freaks.
Support small time pr0n producers! Fight corporatism!
The number one thing to ruin a porn video is my ejaculating about 10 seconds earlier.
straights,
Like seriously, im not Here for sexism...
shouldn't there be an nsfw tag on this?
you don't know where they work
Fun fact:
Back during the dotcom boom I met a guy in San Francisco who worked fixing bugs in Netscape's rendering engine.
He said ~80% of the problem reports were from porn sites complaining that their page didn't work properly in NS but worked fine in IE.
So yeah he spent all day on porn sites, making them better for the rest of us.
True hero.
Disingenuous love or none at all.
Overly produced.
""Sssss, haahhh"
Doesn't care about woman's pleasure. Blowjob leads right into sex.
She's obviously dry.
The cum is fake.
The guy is half hard pushing rope while she's pretending too hard that it feels good.
Circumcised penis, especially if it's an oral video.
Gambling site ads embedded in a video.
A grainy video shot on a tripod with no studio lights with people who actually like each other is better than 95% of the garbage that gets posted. I prefer erotica written for men over videos. Even when it's written cheesy it's still better than most videos.
Choking. I spend a fair amount of time in kink clubs, and the choking you see casually thrown into random porn would get you thrown out of all of them; including the ones that allow choking.
Glad you asked.
I really don't like the trend of pushing the ladies' hair out of her face when she's giving a blowjob.
It just screams "this is directed and we are following the standard set before us."
The best sex is authentic, even if it's being recorded.
Also, tattoos and fake tits. Blech.
Anytime the girl says shit like, "Oh yeah baby do you like fucking my pussy!? Does my little pussy feel so good!?"
STOP IT. STOP. IT. PLEASE. UUUUUGH. So not appealing.
"Uhh.. yeah uh. You're pussy's alright, ma'am."
tips hat
Pulling that stupid ahegao face. I don't know who that's for, but it's definitely not me.
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slapping. no idea why that is so prevalent. I swear im not looking for it.
And spitting into mouths. And onto dicks. I mean if you're doing a whole degradation thing then fine. Not going to say it's never hot, but if it's just sex between two people and not hate fucking, count me out. Also throat fucking until they either puke or just snot comes out of everywhere.
And if you're going to do degradation, I need a pre- and post-sex interview of the bottom (edit: I originally said girl, but that's just how I roll, same would apply in reverse—I'm just not excited by femdom) saying how they are into it/loved it. Degradation with full consent and proper aftercare can be hot but I rarely see that. I think there's like one company that does it right. (And no I don't remember the company because frankly I don't watch all the much porn these days. That company might've gone under a decade ago for all I know.)
you know its funny. I love a good throatpie but for some reason I see the spitting in the mouth and thing. ewww. Then again you think about sex without being horny and in the throes and its like. ewwww.
Fake moaning. Fake dirty talk
Jackhammer fucking. I dont want to see some woman have her cervix be pile drived into the ground.
The view from behind where we get to see some ugly dudes fucking hairy balls dangling.
Are some of my top ones, but honestly I dont like professional porn in general. Its just so fake.
I'd rather watch a grainy video of a couple amatures absolutely loving what their doing, than watch some stuff terrible play acting profesional porn in 4k.
You managed to nail about every peeve of mine in one short comment. Bravo.
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The guy getting his ass eaten or the guy playing with his own nipples. (Yes this is straight porn I'm referring too.)
Instead of playing with his own nipples he should play patty cake with the guy jerking off
All that annoying nudity.
Aaaahhhhhhh. Sssssssssss. Aaaahhhhhhhh. Sssssssssss. Aaaaahhhhhhhh.
Fauxcest. It didn't use to be so prolific.
Go real or go home, bro!
I will vomit directly into your eyeballs
Don't threaten me with a good time.
Face slapping, choking, any kind of violent nonsense. I hate it so much...
And when the people won't shut the fuck up for two minutes...
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Anytime the girl looks like she's not actually enjoying the sex. Fake or dubbed sound. Choking or slapping (see first item).
I also usually find any talking (sexy talk) to be awful. I don't have a problem with it in concept, but in porn execution, it's almost always super bad. Camera man talking is universally bad.
Excessive moaning. Male or female. They sound like they're having a tough shit, not sex.
"Sexy" talk that amounts to verbal abuse.
The popularity of the incest shit is weird and seems indicative of a larger issue in our society.
Degradation being the rule and not a niche.
When guys rent open the actresses' asshole like they're looking for their car keys in there.
The popularity of the incest shit is weird and seems indicative of a larger issue in our society.
Maybe. It's convenient for writing purposes because it explains away how the couple already knows each other, already feels safe, already is in the same home, but hasn't had sex yet.
The larger issue in society might be that people aren't meeting each other anymore and aren't getting into situations where they meet organically. To be fair, even when it works, it's still a little slower to pick up a stranger from a bar than to wake up horny for your sister.
A philosopher said that people really just want to feel safe and desired. Family is close to both. I imagine.
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Production value.
I'll take a video recorded by a married couple with an iPhone over a bunch of fake people in a fake scenario faking how much fun they are having.
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One of the actors being really not into it, faked or not.
If they aren't all clearly having fun, like in those fake rape videos, then it isn't for me.
Ahegao
Having human beings and being live action.
I initially read this as "halving human beings" and was like, wtf bro?!?
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When the guy talks nonstop through the whole video. If that's your thing then go for it and enjoy but it just makes the whole thing difficult to enjoy for me. The guy always sounds like some neckbeard who is getting laid for the first time in his life and thinks he's supposed to recite every cringe line from every bad porn he's ever seen. You're not who I'm here for dude 🤮
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Me finishing
Anything that comes across as fake, but especially long fake nails or in fact long nails of any kind. Please don't put those near any sensitive spots.
I say "comes across as" because all porn involves performance. It's about believability, not authenticity, at the end of the day.
When a girl starts rimming the guy
Obviously fake noises and high pitched voices. Just talk at normal volumes and make moans and grunts and other non-performative noises, thanks.
Yes, I know that even doing that is performative to a degree, but convincingly realistic is better than B movie performances.
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Spitting. It grosses me out so bad when people spit in each other's faces or mouths. Ugh.
Professional porn is also unappealing. Anything that feels fake.
When guys refer to their body parts by female terms (like a guy saying "fuck my pussy," "make me pregnant" et cetera).
When they are clearly on meth
Thinking about the actors as people who are at work.
And how they all probably work for the most unattractive kinds of bosses that just whips them around to produce content.
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