Men shouldn't be allowed near children that aren't their own. It's rarely stated but regularly assumed.
This one fucking sucks... it's especially awful for us beard havers.
I think it is more of the mustache only crowd that really faces a stigma about being good with kids.
"Women should be barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen" transcribes to "Men should be shirtless and mentally ill in the garage."
As a millennial, if I could afford a house, I PROMISE you I wouldn't also be able to afford mental health treatments, or a shirt.
So this tracks.......if I could get a house.
I'm a Millenial with a house, but no garage. So, I'm shirtless and mentally ill under the carport.
You are going to be the best uncle that nobody trusts their kid with after what happened last time they had you watch their house. You have an important role in the community, selling illegal fireworks to bored teens.
Clearly you just need to be a man and work harder and more hours, at the expense of your mental health, to be a better provider because that is your only value to your family. The more emotionally shut-off and weekday war-torn you are, the better the space in which you can escape work and home stress by self-isolating and self-medicating with alcohol. Your chosen man-cave is totally not a place to hide your emotional breakdowns where you silently sob as you suffer the masculine burdens of building stress and feelings of inadequacy alone. Just remember, communicating your feelings is what women do; men dig their grave faster and deeper because that takes manly strength.
Men should swallow their feelings and go break their bodies and mind for a paycheck. Then die younger because of it.
We're looking for fake answers, not real ones.
Protectors & providers
It's one of the worst kind of inequality which women don't (or rarely) ever examine and question if it's compatible with modern ideas
That men should be able to fix things and be mechanically inclined.
Yup, I have an essential tremor and fucking hate that one. I don't mind strength based tasks... but if I try and screw in a light bulb I'll probably crush it accidentally... don't even get me started on appliances like blenders and shit - in the best case scenario I'll brick the device... but I'll probably injur myself.
I mean no offense at all, and feel free not to answer, but how do you type?
Is it like a special keyboard, voice to text, or do I just completely misunderstand what you mean?
At the moment it comes and goes with stress, as my dad aged it became more and more common but I can usually manage to type (with a lot of autocorrect help and backspace). It also varies with hand posture and that sort of clamping grip really makes me unsteady (for this reason scrubing potatoes is actually extremely difficult for me).
It's a neurological thing - almost certainly - so I only know what I've observed.
Men should all be (the sole) breadwinners.
Men should be climbing the corporate ladder
Aside... as a technical expert, can I just mention that the fact that we envision it as a "corporate ladder" is the biggest fucking load of bullshit?
I can confidently state that I'm much more competent than my fucking CEO.
In my area it would be something like "Men should go to war".
Men bring home enough bacon for the whole household to live off comfortably.
And go off to die in wars.
That every man has to be a breadearner, a handyman and be able to physically defend their home&family.
Anecdotal, being from Louisiana, this is what I've been pressured with my entire life.
Doing manual labor in general, not just farming. Or being in charge at work
Men should be the breadwinners, men should be the one to ask the woman out, men should pay for the first date, men have to be the ones who propose, men should be 6 feet tall... It sucks especially if you're an introvert, shy, and nobody ever explained this shit to you as a teenager. Therapy ftw.
Men not being allowed to be emotionally expressive has led to so many mental health problems...
The most direct I can think of is that men should be the sole breadwinner of their family, and that if his wife earns more than him (or even has a job at all) then that's some kind of failing on his part.
There are many other similar stereotypes. For example:
That men have an obligation to defend their/their significant other's 'honor' with violence.
That men shouldn't cry or otherwise show strong emotion under nearly any circumstance.
Men shouldn't want to interact with children, especially other people's kids.
I can go on all day.
Have to be a raging bull of testosterone and manly interests while also being a round the clock worker to be a breadwinner and also being a father figure to any children in your life on demand
“Men should all love football.”
Wait, which football? The one they play with their hands, or the one they play with their feet?
Handegg
No wait I know the answer to this one.... If you have a penis, you should be able to use tools competently and perform basic maintenance and repairs. I learned this just by watching cartoons and tv when I was a child so I taught myself all that stuff just because I thought you were assumed to. I now take $75+ per hour from men who cant figure out how a screwdriver works. I am virtual husband to many women who married paper shufflers who can't even tighten a loose doorknob screw.
If you have a penis, you should be able to use tools competently and perform basic maintenance and repairs.
I don't think a penis is required. I personally think that every human being should know basic maintenance and repair skills.
A man should get violent and angry and protective when someone hits on his woman.
Should be bread-earners.
We should enjoy violence
Men should all be working on the railroad like John Henry; the manliest man that ever man'd. He's so much of a man, he beat a machine. And then promptly died.
It’s a man’s job to grill.
I mostly let my girlfriend do that. I trust her way more with food than I trust myself.
I usually just get the fire started.
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