My wife and I go through hot & cold spells. I think we have similar drives, but our timing doesn't always match up. I'm more of a "harness the power of the morning wood" sort of fellow. She's more of a "I want it right now but he's still at work" sort of gal. We both talk a big game, but work, childcare and adulting conspire against us.

People are just not very attractive nowadays

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It could be the aging population. If 100% of people 20-40 have sex and 0% of 40-60 then that's 50% if both groups are equally strong.

Now if it's 1/3 and 2/3 then it's only 33%.

Probably depression, online dating ruining the entire dating world, and the economy sucking.

I remember growing up, you could go to a bar with friends, meet some people and there was always someone hooking up quickly. Or you grabbed a phone number and you were good for later.

Now it's more "are you 6 foot tall?" "do you make six figures?" "what's your snap or insta?" "are you a racist nazi that will murder me in my sleep?"

Then they can always say, ehhh, your not attractive enough for me, i'll go on tinder and DM one of the 60 guys waiting for me. BYEEEEEEEE

Women are avoiding men. For all sorts of reasons that I think most of you are aware of. It's a huge turn off to be with someone who thing you are lower than them. Who thinks you don't deserve basic human rights.

It's a huge mood killer.

Women also are feeling like they have the ability to refuse when before they didn't.

Women are also scared of pregnancy in a way they haven't been since the fecking 1900s.

Because now, you get pregnant. A doctor will let you die before they will provide medical care if that medical care has any chance of harming a fetus. Even if the fetus is dead.

Women are dying from pregnancy. Women are no longer able to terminate an early pregnancy safely.

Women are scared.

*I realize not every sex encounter is a man and woman. But most of the population is hetero.

Gotta have both a partner and time to have sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Lack of genuine idle time breeds ... non-breeding.

I'd say a larger part of the population being aware that they can reject "unsolicited requests" is a part of it.

Also, it requires meeting people to some extent. That sounds boring.

Should I invest in sex now that it's low?

1. People are more willing to be honest now.
2. How much of that sex in the past had the same amount of consent?

Spousal Rape Laws started getting enforced finally.

Many animals breed less in captivity. Many do not breed at all. The less people feel a sense of control over their own lives, the weaker the desire to procreate becomes. Even if people use birth control, sex drive is still ultimately a reproductive urge. If you're a farmer in the 19th century ? You have a great deal of freedom and independence. Mid 20th century American worker? Homes are cheap. Jobs are abundant. Labor rights are strong. You have lots of options on how to earn a living. You have a clear path to getting a home and raising a family on your own terms. Present-day 20 something? You don't just have roommates in an apartment; you're actually sharing bedrooms. Or you're stuck living under your parents' roof forever, your only hope of home ownership being them passing it on to you. All the jobs available to you don't come close to providing any kind of independent living, let alone the wages to actually buy a home, start a family, etc. You're just going to have to run on the wage slave treadmill til you die.

The economy has developed to squeeze ever more out of workers and consumers. We're psychologically manipulated at every turn. Every business feels like a scam trying to pull one over on you. You can't even sign up for a gym membership without risking getting caught in dark business practices (their infamous cancellation policies.) People feel and are trapped in a system that they have little to no control over. Politicians only listen to the wealthy. Unions provided some voice to the voiceless for some time, but those have been gutted. People feel like cornered animals. They feel as though the entire system is just on elaborate exercise in thinly veiled slavery meant to extract every last once of the work product of your entire life from you. The wealthy pay you a pittance for your labor and then take all that pittance back in usurious rents. People feel trapped.

Lots of animals refuse to reproduce in captivity. Lots of animals reduce their birth rates under captivity. Why should humans be any different? Why should we be any different than the mice of Universe 25?

I have a really high sex drive and I've never been in a relationship where I consistently got it often enough to be satisfied so I stopped trying. It also doesn't help that my living situation is not conducive to bringing people home with me.

Yes.